Marriage delayed for guys in India for not having a own house
Relationships and marriages are different in India compared to other parts of the world. People ask for dinner and they build the relationship and gradually end up marrying each other. This is something that happens in Western countries but in India, there are still many families that do properly arranged marriages. These type of marriages are something where the whole family is involved and they plan everything for a bride and groom.
Sometimes people decide to settle down in life first before they go for the next commitment like marriage and kids. But predicting the settling down part is very hard because it can take years. This is where some people make the mistake and they end up not getting married at the right age. After a point, it is either blind acceptance or they end up not getting married at all.
Demands are heavy these days
Finding the right bride is becoming very difficult these days. It is said that the amount of boys is higher compared to the amount of girls available for marriage. Even though I don't buy this completely, it appears to be like that. Many girls are working well and they also demand good boys. There are so many demands from both the side of the family when it comes to marriage. Usually, discussions happen beforehand and everything gets solved and then only marriage happens.
Marriages have lots of expectation and the bride's family these days expect the groom to have a house. Many marriages are being rejected for not having a house. One good thing is that all these discussions happen before the marriage so that there are no big disputes after the marriage. Despite all these things discussed beforehand, there are some instances where the groom's family is not happy with the bride's family and they start creating problems after the marriage.
Guys find it hard to meet the expectation
There used to be a time in India where there was too much of demand from the groom's side when it came to marriages. The groom will ask for a car, house, and whatnot. Today the cycle has changed and these days the bride's family is demanding so many things. Some of the demands include the following:
- The Groom should soon travel abroad and have a nice job there
- All the marriage expenses should be made by the Groom
- The groom should not live with their parents after the marriage and they have to move out.
- The groom should have a car
- The groom should have his own house
- It is preferable if both the parents are dead
I can keep going with the list but it wouldn't be very nice to keep reading. I have seen some of my friends say that they don't need a house because they keep changing places. They move from one city to another city whenever there is a job change.
If the above is going to be the demand from the Bride's side, it can get hard in the future for guys to get married. All this is happening because there is a huge demand for girls these days.
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Thats fair bro, here in Venezuela should apply.
Some demands are exaggerated. But, having a house to be able to get married does seem to me like it should be a mandatory requirement for everyone in the world.
When you have children, children need their own space to develop, and if they do not have their own home, the decisions are not made by the couple, the space is limited so what the child wants to do at home will also be limited, for On the other hand, parenting is affected due to the various patterns it can acquire.
Personally, I don't see the point in getting married to live in your parents' house.
It is not about living in parents house even though it is very common in India. The point is that it is not okay to live in a rented house. Girls expect a 25 year old guy to own a house and have a hand full of salary which is not realistic.
It sounds like the brides families are revenging what they were put through by the grooms families a long time ago.
Oh lol yeah possible. Now it's the time for brides.
A day will come when the male and female will not want to marry. Because of the pressure from the families and the government will start complaining of an aged population because people would have stoped marrying and having children.
I think it cannot be the case. I guess a few countries are giving extra perks if they have more kids. So if it is not happening in one place, it might happen in another place possibly.
Even though the house requirement sounds logical I beg to differ on that one. It should be the guy should be able to afford renting a house. Owning a house at a young age is not ideal. It’s better to invest the money in something that will be returning money and help the family become financially stable as opposed to burying the money in a liability that will be demanding maintenance as opposed to putting money in the young couples hands.
The funny thing is another friend is having problem getting a bride because he is having an outstanding loan. That's also a problem.
A tag of war scenario. A clear indicator as to why people should be mindful of the family they marry into to. It has the potential of running them down and ruining their life.
Yes indeed. They don't understand it is all going to become one family after the marriage.
Sad state of affairs but very true.
Hahahah.. I am curious to know why. It’s preferable for both parents to be dead.
Lol yeah. Funny right. It is because the bride will not have a need to take care of them during their old age. 🙂
The fact that guys find it hard to meet the lady’s expectation is the reason why the lady should work too. A man needs a lady who is working and who can also be supportive
That’s the fact
These days that's another problem where ladies earn a lot of money and men earn little and that's another reason why ladies don't get a guy.
I think, having house is actually a mandatory requirement now. Even if they have a ancestors house that's OK I guess
Yeah mostly inherited property is what they are expecting. If someone is buying a new house and having a loan ongoing, that also becomes a problem.
There is no shortage of girls, at least not significantly......but there is a shortage of the role of a pure home maker.....that is where it appears like a shortage of girls.....
The template of arranged marriage has also changed these days, with nuclear family increasingly becoming norm, and girls becoming more economically empowered, the path to reach a consensus has become tough and complex, may be rightfully so....boys have hitherto dictated the terms, and now it's a level playing field.
In any case, thinking to getting married after getting settled may not be a good idea, family is a still an integral unit and support system in Indian society and rightfully so, and that offers better margin to young adults getting married at the right time.
Not just home makers, even working women have a similar expectation.
True.
wow! I used to think the bride's family are responsible for paying dowry in India , when did things change?
It used to be the case but now changed because there is a huge demand for girls.
Interesting!
Its an alarming situation for guys now.. :)
There will be a time again when guys are low in number and girls are plenty.