It's the love that calms everything and doesn't last long.
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While we were growing up, I used to get angry at the slightest mistake of anyone around me and would confidently tell such a person not to talk to me unless they apologized by giving them the deadline for the apology and if not, forever is my enmity with them. I never understood what freeing one's mind is capable of doing.
I started growing up and got to realize that life is too short to start keeping malice or holding grudges against anyone. My family has this anger issue which I took from my Father. My Dad is so stubborn and can get angry easily but mine is much more than my Dad. I get angry to the extent that I decide on that spot and by the time I feel calm, I regret my thoughts then.
Thank God I worked on it gradually and today, even though I get annoyed to the point of getting angry, I still get calm and move on with my life.
I consider all anger which is caused by frustration from people to be a mild annoyance because it doesn't last long. If you love people around you, no matter how much they make you angry, you will still come back to being good and normal with them.
People don't usually see me getting angry because they see it as another thing for me. I smile so much even when they expect me to get angry because I noticed something — When I get angry, it will affect my mood for that day and I have a lot to do for something to start holding me back.
Being in a sad mood or holding grudges against someone will stop me from thinking positively because all in my mind would be that person and how he or she has hurt me. This is why I don't get angry.
Though it's normal to be pissed off and get annoyed, we can still learn how to control it so it doesn't stop us from achieving what we intended for that day.
I don't think I have some set of people I don't get angry with no matter how much they have hurt me because I give everyone the same treatment and result. Life is too short to start dwelling on the past deed of someone to you. You just have to let go and keep getting better each day.
I love everyone irrespective of who they are and even if I am angry, it's either I let you know what you did or sleep and forget about what had happened. That doesn't stop me from relating with you. I already moved on with my life.
I will only share an experience of someone who made me angry to the extent that I was crying because it hurt me, but I forgot and still embraced her.
There is nothing my siblings will do to me that will make me get angry completely to the extent that I forget or ignore them. They are my blood after all and I wouldn't want to keep them away from me. Even if you apologize or not, I don't use that against you or them.
I and my immediate younger sister had a little misunderstanding that day and it was something she could easily let go but at that time, I understood her present moment and allowed her to insult me to the extent that I was hurt too and started crying. A different person could harm such a sister because those words she said were too heavy in her mouth to utter to her elder sister but no, we have come a long way to start turning our backs on each other.
The next day, she was travelling back to her place because we came home to celebrate Christmas. I bid her goodbye and we continued our chatting as if nothing happened. Till today, she never apologized and that doesn't bother me too. If not for this topic, I wouldn't have remembered such a thing happened but it's all gone for good.
My anger doesn't last at all with anyone. I see it as something that keeps me back from doing things I needed to do because I will only be thinking about the pain and not what I should do to get my life better. I have always understood the power of positivity and a little thing can trigger it from being practiced in our lives.
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We grow wiser with age. At last I understand what the elders meant when they said they’d love to be young again by with the wisdom they have now. I also was once an angry bird 😉
As we keep growing, we realize many things we ought not to have done while we are young but it's good as we keep learning.
Hehehe. Angry bird! 😂
Exactly!!!
We grow wiser everyday and it's surprising that we let go of things easily...💗💗
Me too, when me and my sibling had a misunderstanding, one talk could erase everything and sometimes we didn't say sorry, we just started to talk to each other
Yes, that is the strength of blood. We don't mind if they say sorry or not, we return back to our normal lives.
I never thought that you could be an angry lady at any point of life. I have always seen you calm and composed. !LOLZ so you have learned to control your anger over time.
Siblings sometimes hurt us soooo badly but being angry with them hurt us more. So, there is no way we remain angry with them for long. Forgiveness gives us the way forward. It creates ease in our own lives.
Hehehe. I was once an angry lady but I realize I don't need it especially since I am now growing into a full adult. There is nothing like loving your siblings more than getting angry with them. The love is great.
Keep being a loving lady . Suits you ❤️❤️
Thank you ma.
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Anger and resentment only cause us harm, the secret is to take the mind to a new goal, when your mind goes to another task anger fades due to lack of attention.
That's true, but sometimes, anger stops us from moving.
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Exactly. This is why I don´t dwell much on anger because of the goals I need to achieve.
I do believe that love conquers all things and all emotions that we feel. I feel the same way, I get mad and pissed-off whenever my sister annoys me, but a simple conversation will take it all away as if like nothings happen.
Yea, there is nothing they do to us that will make us mad at them for long. Though, we may be angry but it´s just for a short time and it ends there immediately.
Let me say this ...you are a darling princess.... I know everyone has their flaws likewise you but I know I can manage your anger level... I love the woman you are becoming everyday.
Thanks for sharing this with us...
Aww, thanks so much for the encouraging words. You are sweet ❤️
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Iron Lady acting like the princess you are, apologize or no more friendship😂 it is good you have soften up a bit 🤗
As for your sis, she is actually lucky that you are blood, if not it would be a different scenario . This is why they said blood is thicker than water, no matter what they do to us, we would always forgive them.
😂😂 Don´t mind me then. I was being childish and forming a big girl then. Lol, but it was fun acting that way to them. They are just naughty.
Yea, that was what saved my sister. But, what will I do even if she was to be another person? I no get charm na 😂I will just let it slide and move on with my life. Blood is indeed thicker than water.
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Only the brats don't mature as they grow 😅 . I have siblings who seem to still have young minds despite being adults lol
Hahaha,, they don´t want to grow 😂
Thank you.
Understanding really subsides something's with understanding there won't be much problems
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Thank you for reading.
Anger really holds us back from moving forward in life. It is only someone who does not have understanding that will hold unto an offence for long. Even the holy Bible says, we should not let the sun go down while we are still angry with our brothers. I had an experience recently, someone told me some thing that got me so offended that I could not do anything at all, I lost my peace, lost appetite, I was just there. Each time I close my eyes the matter keeps coming back to me, it reached a point I started looking for how to meet the person to settle the matter though he was the one that offended me, but I just want to be free.
Life is too short to keep malice with people, there is nothing in this life, if only we will find time and visit any nearest burial ground we will understand what life is better.
I always tell you that I love your personality, I sincerely admire your person, it is not everyone that can love everybody equally. To some persons you have to be their blood or tribe , or their class first before they love you hehe.
If we can love everyone around us sincerely, we will never hold our anger on them for long, they will piss us up, no doubt, but we will overlook it because love conquers all.
Your sister loves you, I believe she regretted her actions ever since then but she lack how to come and start apologizing, I love the lesson you taught her, by relating well with her after the incidence. Do you know that when you pay evil with love it hurts most?
That is the truth. This is why I try not to get too angry for long because of what I need to achieve in life. Keeping anger in my heart for a long time will surely draw me back because I will only be thinking about it and from there, negativity sets in and that is the end.
In fact, there is a portion of the Bible that relate to this... Where it says something like when they do evil to you, do good to them because through that, you are heaping coals of fire on your enemies.
Thanks for your amazing comment, Emreal. I really appreciate it.
Life is indeed too short because no one knows what might happen tomorrow. So, forgive and let it end there, then move on with your life as if nothing happened.
Exactly, without peace of mind , we really can not do anything. Our minds will just be clouded with thoughts that we can't control and that will make it difficult for us to even think straight.
Hehe, that is the truth oh. Coals of fire indeed, I am just imagining how one would be feeling and acting when he or she steps on fire hehe.
Thank you so much for being here on Hive for me hehe🥰🥰🤗
It´s always my pleasure, Emreal. Thank you too 😎
Always welcome ma🥰🥰
To avoid misunderstanding at times, a perfect understanding of whoever you dealing with is necessary.
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You are right. We just have to understand them before getting angry. Thank you for stopping by.
It amazing how God has worked in your heart making your life beautiful by taking away anger from you and for your sister most time our younger ones don't even see the need to apologise but for the fact that we know the truth more than them we just need to let go for peace so it cause separation among us
You are right. While we are growing, we should grow maturely too. Even if they act in a bad way, we can lead by a good example for them and trust me, the respect will be there for you. Thank you.
Your welcome
thanks for sharing
It´s my pleasure too.
Good to hear you are controlling your anger!
I was just relating well with you because I have similar thoughts on this topic. Staying angry at someone for long time is a very big waste of time and we just have to let to let go of any hurt we feel.
Your sister might have not seen anything wrong with what she did and that is why she did not say anything about it again. I'm happy you forgave her even without her asking for one, that's how it should be.