Age isn't just a number
Some people say Age does not matter in a relationship but I disagree with them, Age matters a lot.
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If we look into the dating pool and marriage, we would realize that the male is often older than the female with a wide range of number differences, let's say around 3 to 9 years. If not all, most relationships fall in this range, and a relationship that a female is older than a male is few.
Why is it so?
Do you know that a 25-year-old lady and a 25-year-old guy are not age mates?
A 25-year-old guy is young and still hustling and trying to build himself, such is not yet ready for marriage but for a lady at 25, she is already getting old and prepared to settle down.
A man can get married at the age of 35, he would have a lot of young girls at the age of 20 to 25 flocking around him as long as he is successful, but it is not the same for ladies, a lady at 35 is close to menopause.
Most ladies I have encountered and have a relationship discussion with say they prefer older men to date because they treat them well and seem to understand them when I say older men, I don't mean their ancestors or father's age mate, I mean men that are older than them with 5 to 9 years difference.
Ladies are emotional beings and there is no way their emotions won't get in the way, sometimes they just want to rebel for no reason, and sometimes they just want issues to arise, even when they date older men, they seem to be disrespectful sometimes.
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One thing that men don't joke about in a relationship is respect and peace of mind.
We love to be the Alpha, not controlling but we want our women to listen to us, when we tell them not to do something because we think they could harm themselves or it could put them at risk.
Now Imagine your wife or girlfriend is older than you by 5 years, you are like a younger brother to her, even if at first she is being submissive to you, it will get to a certain point that she would rebel like I said they are emotional being and they can't hide the way they feel for a long period if you keep telling her not to do this or that, don't go out, I don't want you to be friends with those people, go and prepare food for me, a day will come that she will rebel and tell you to stop talking to her that way that she is older than you lol.
Also as an alpha male, you may not like it if she starts treating you like a baby in the relationship, even the ones we are older than with lot of years treat us like a baby not to talk of the one that is older than you.
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On point @burlarj . Men should not see older ladies as best in marriage because when the table turns around, unhappiness will set in.
that is just it
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Hehe, I’d say that end part again. Even the ones guys are older than are disrespectful so what changes when it’s the one older than them?
Yes we are emotionally beings and whether or not a guy is older or younger, as humans we get to a point when we just become rebellious both male and female. The only problem will be if it is something that is always reoccurring.
Anyways, it is what we’ve all grown to see so it’s expected that most people won’t agree with age being just a number but we should bare it in mind that people lie about their ages a lot these days so the safest is studying your partner if he or she is someone you can love and respect.
the difference is that, when a younger one becomes disrespectful, men think she is just being childish, but if it is an older one, they won't take it that way, they will think it is because she is older than them and that is when ego comes in
you also know what later happened when the real age is revealed
Then age is not the problem, it is how we see it. Well, that’s why it’s good to go with what works for you so you don’t end up having issues over little things.
Yeah, it might bring that relationship to an end sef.
it is how we set it, yes
it is how ladies see it when they know they are older
it is how guys see it when they know they are younger
so it is a problem 😄
It is a problem indeed. We need to learn to be more open minded but that is more or less like a luxury because it’s what we’ve been use to all these while
This prompts the question, can you date a guy 5 years younger than you?
How would you feel when you walk on the street together and people start referring to him as your younger brother?
I can oo 🙂
Oh! You can never tell until I tell you I’m older than him so I won’t get that at all.
Like I said, as long as we are compatible in other areas and he is willing then I’m good.
are you sure? most ladies have rapid growth
it would be obvious you are older but in some cases, it may be different but that is just in few cases
i believe your mindset will change in few years regarding this case...
especially when you are ready to settle down at the age of 25, will you get married to a 20 years old guy who is just building himself
If building himself is his reason then he is free to go, he is the man after all, if he is not ready then what’s the point?
I’m referring to someone who is ready and I’m older than him.
As for the changes I don’t think that is a problem because I’ve seen a lot of girls that looks way older than their age that they look older than someone who is even 5 years older than them.
most guys are not ready in their early twenties, and most ladies are already getting old after their twenties, so you don't expect a man in his late twenties to get married to a lady over 30
yea good you mentioned it that most girls look older than their age, that is a very good point in my favor...
Yeah, that’s true. Is not as if I’d only meet guys that I’m older than 😂. But I won’t let age be a barrier that’s all I’m saying 🤓.
Oh! Yeah, that’s just it, hehe
alright, I will let you win lol
I wish that was what I wanted 🫠.
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Why is he laughing oo? 🌚
Better come back and continue this conversation so I don’t go and make mistake 😂
lol, but you have made up your mind already that age is not a barrier so no matter what I say, you still don't think it is a barrier and I don't think anything will change your mind unless you experience it by dating someone younger than you
Okay, I understand better now 🫠
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The write up is hilarious...most females will still argue with this. Anyways I share the same sentiment. I cannot be in a relationship with an older lady.
lol one is already arguing with me but in reality am sure most of them prefer men older than them too...
I use to think like this some years ago until I discovered that this is more of an environmental factor than it is an individual factor.
In this part of the world, a lot of 16/17 year olds still think they are kids and 16/17 year old girls are already having a picture of what they want their lives to look like which makes them more mature... This is where the problem is.
In countries where 16/17-year-old males are already taking responsibility, by the time they are 22 they have already developed enough maturity and finances to settle with a lady of their choice.
This is seen even in this country with guys who started hustling at an early age, not out of hardship or necessity but because the had good amount of support from parent who didn't treat them as kids at that age.
in most countries, 16 to 17 is not an adult yet but in some cases, we have those who were forced to survive on their own due to the hardship in the family, as for responsibilities, I think anyone at such an age is still trying to survive too, what responsibilities can such bear?
Meanwhile my points about age is only for the ladies and guys at 25 years, not below or higher, and that was to emphasize that at that age, most ladies are already thinking of getting married while most of the guys still hustling for a better life.....
You can take your secondary school classmate as a good example, the percentage of the ladies who has gotten married would be higher than the male.
I totally agree with you and I have told my friends this same thing sometime ago
Women are naturally proud so being submissive to your younger brother is a lot…
But I feel pity for ladies who are up to thirty and not married
I honestly don’t want mine to be like that and I pray about it every now and then
Thirty is old for a lady…
To me sha
Not everyone will marry, people need to know this and marriage isn't an achievement in my opinion, giving birth too isn't an achievement .if it comes good, if it doesn't all is welll, you bring nothing and you left nothing .
Well…
I can understand from your point of view but at the same time, I believe everyone should stick with what works for them.
Some prefer older while some prefer younger, it's just individual preferences. I loved reading your post though. Looking forward to reading more.
Well based on individual preference statistics, it shows men who loves younger women are more ...
True though.
The age matters their is not doubt in it. The Indian culture also for marriage the girl are is less then the big (in most of the cases).
that is the right way
I support you wholeheartedly. Men love respect and peace of mind in their relationships. If women do not understand these, there will miss out.
Many had a failed relationship because they lack that respect for their men.
Yes, dear. Women need to understand what men like and what they don't like.
You’re very correct
We may be agents but doesn’t mean we’re mates, lol
Well, as long as people are cool with themselves regardless of their ages, they are good to go!
yea, we know that you ladies are our seniors and have gone far in life with doings regardless of age xd