Marriage is not what you think from the outside.

They said marriage is one of the sweetest thing, but it is not what I'm seeing nowadays.
They said marriage is filled with love only, but they did not tell us the other side of it

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While we were growing up, we only thought marriage is a union where love never ceases to flow. We perceived it as forever flawless since the partners were strongly connected.

I think it was the love movies we watched during those time that shaped our thinking, the movie directors always showed us the good side of marriage and love, that we went very far from the reality of it. We could only see the part of the movie where they lovers were only fighting for their true love when they were not married yet and when they finally succeeded in being together by getting married the movie ends without completely showing us what happens after they get married. We weren't given the chance to find out if the bond before the marriage was still the same after the marriage.

Should we blame the movies or ourselves, after all they were doing their business and their aim was to get the best profit out of it, so they delivered what would give them that. We had our society and environment to learn from, the lives of couples and partners around us should have shaped us or gave us clues on what we should expect during marriage, but we poor and innocent young ones were only fantasizing on what was good and only. It was not our fault.

I have been oppurtuned to see different side of the marriage even when I'm not yet there. I have seen the way different marriage lives turned out to be, some went well and got me wishing and praying for my time to come very fast and soon as possible just can't wait, while some made me became very scared of marriage and having a second thought if I can handle this or should I even go into this forever bondage.

I think the young ones coming up should be educated properly on what marriage is all about. They should all know that marriage has it's both beautiful and ugly part, they should not be deceived by what they see in movies, it is all lies and intended to make you happy so you keep watching and come back for more.

Divorce is becoming to much nowadays and this is because the new couple especially the young ones had poor orientation of what marriage is all about, they all thought it will be bed of roses through out, when they go in and it did not look like what they think it would be, they easily give up by going for instead of doing what it takes to keep it going no matter what.

My conclusion is, marriage is both sweet and bitter and everyone trying to go into it should be aware of both side of it and should be prepared to be able to deal with it when the times come. During the hard times you must be patient and willing to do what it takes to make it work, instead of opting to quit immediately.

If our parents would had quitted easily in their marriage lives we wouldn't have been here, so we should seek advice from them to know how they were able to sustain themselves till now and how they still lived happily. There is always story to tell about a successful marriage live, but don't think it is an easy one.

This post was inspired by the Hive Learners community weekly topic contest.

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