Parental Struggle

We always knew, he was and still humble when there is no money and happy when there is.

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I know people would say there is a specific age or time period, that you should explain or tell your offspring that :you are poor'.

Honestly there is no specific age. I was 4 years old when my dad would buy for me school things and explain to me that I should work hard as he is working hard to put the family's need to other.

I'did remember he would say 'Luper, go to school and become somebody great make me proud and help your siblings one day l'. Well I know some would say he was wrong to say that to a 4 year old boy. But, do you really think he was.

While growing up, growing from a poor background, where my parent put up a happy face so that they wont too tire was not something we'd experience. My parent were blunt and honest. And that shaped me, not negatively.

For me if you have clocked 12 years and are still insensitive to the financial standing of your family, you really are some insensitive fella. Children these days are wise, some will even ask you at age 6. If they ask tell them.

I have this friend of mine, she told me that, up till she turned 22 years, her current age nobody told her anything.she knew it herself, she knew it when she was 4 or 6 years old. She said her dad had this facial expressions he wears and attitude he exhibited for weeks or month, we he didn't have much.

Some parents even become aggressive to their children. not withstanding, it is proper to tell your children the family's financial standing, but the exact age is relatively based on the actual financial standing.

Hope I didn't confuse you there. For rich family they can leave it to 16 years or 18 years or even above. But for moderate family, it is based on how much you can with hold from them and for how long. And for the poor once, like us: they don't even have to tell us. We will know. just vex momcy or popcy, then go carry generation poverty history give you (Pigin English). But for some, they would sit you down and tell you like mine.

I recall some of those long conversation, how he'd go farm for people to pay his tuition fees, or sell things in the market. At some point I hard the entire story in my head. But every story in its own way had new characters and events.

To be honest I never like that we were poor, but there wasn't anything I could do about it. Or anything. And those stories kept me motivated. Infact sometimes I await them.

But regardless, for some children, at that age, it would not be good on them. You are transferring your problems onto a growing child. That child has a high tendency of not growing well. I believe every man or woman m that is mature and has give birth to a child should be in the best position to know when to tell her or his offspring.

Setting an exact age wouldn't go well with every child or every parent. Every father or mother would be protective. So even if it would be at an early age, tell it in a way the child would want to know more. Or in a way the child would not feel borden.

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