Wood To Ashes Of Single Parenting

Single parenting is a situation where one parent has to foster the needs single-handedly without the involvement of the second parent. This had numerous side effects on the child or children involved. They had to pass through a lot just to feel safe or get involved in their immediate environment. It does not just affect the child or children involved, but also affects the parents rendering caregiver to the child or children.

Causes

It may be as a result of:
*Divorce or separation:

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These irreconcilable differences can have a great effect on the child or children involved. When divorce or separation is involved, one of the two would bear the responsibility of taking care of the child. So many homes today got broken due to some uncontrollable differences and on the verge of doing this, the child may be observing. People around would not see the other effect, but would see the opportunity of using that as an advantage towards making the child feel uncomfortable.

Loss of parents to Death:

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This is the major one that does happen, and this aspect is the painful part of it all. After the death of one of the parents, the child would not feel better with the immediate system of living. The old life might change to a new one and to adapt to such a new life would be so tough.

Effects

There are some crucial effects I would like to bring out that can truly affect the child or children to the brim. Single parenting is not the best, but when it happens, one has no choice other than to cope with the situation.

Feeling of abandonment:

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The child or children may feel abandoned and unkempt. Such children may develop a sense of rejection and may find it difficult to mingle with their immediate environment. They would find it difficult to relate with people around them as they have had it in their mind that people have rejected them. It can lead to sleep disturbance and loss of appetite and other emotional aspects of life.

Financial Challenge:

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Since only one party is responsible for the welfare of the child, he or she may find it difficult to finance all the needs of the child except if he or she has well-stable financial services. Help may not come from anywhere and to make this possible, parents who fall under this situation would seek the help of so many people. Although, sometimes, both parents do have an agreement on how to take care of the child, that is if such separation is due to normal but not death.

Confusion about the absence of the other parent:
Taking care of the child alone may not be palatable, especially when the child is emotionally thinking of the other parent. Having this kind of thought may hinder the well-being of the child. Parents were supposed to tell the child the reason for the absence of one of their parents. When they fail to do so, it may confuse them as to what caused the separation between the two parties.

Struggle of establishing a stable identity
Most parents may tend to withdraw from social interaction with their peers as they failed to have stable identities.
They may have the mind of comparison, which would result in inferiority. Most of them may even find themselves in a harmful environment or tending to harm themselves since they failed to identify who they are.

Way Forward

To make the situation look favourable for the child, there are so many measures one has to follow.
Involvement of family members

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Keeping mute without raising alarm towards making the child's future great would cause harm to making the child great. In this regard, contacting the family members for support is the best. When you feel the load is somehow heavy on you, just need to involve the family members of the other family. They may help in bringing the child to a better life.

Friends

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Meeting friends can ease your spending as those you have met would be able to help you in one way or the other. So, there is no harm in trying to tell your friends to help you in taking special care of the child just to bring him to a special place.

Support groups

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This is another thing we must not fail to do. If you are incapable of taking care of the child, then involve support groups to help in financing the schooling and other aspects of the child.

It's hard, but we just need to make it possible to bring the child to a better way of life or to make the child feel like a better human being among his or her equals.

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