I CAN'T BE TRUSTED  🥹

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Going back on our word after promising to do something isn't healthy for any relationship, and regardless of our excuses, such happenings could lead to a situation where trust diminishes in such relationships, and if care isn't taken, such could destroy such friendships and much more. Although I'm the type who loves to keep to my word, unfortunately there comes a time when I have to go back on my word, and today I'll love to tell you all about it.

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Before diving into my experience on this broken promise issue, it's worthy of note that I've had limited situations when I promised and not fulfilled my words, because I hate to promise and fail, and due to that, I tend to not want to promise anyone, so I won't fall into a situation where I won't be able to fulfill it. So after critical thinking and having just two experiences that came to mind, I decided to resolve to talk about this experience, even though I'm not too comfortable about it.

So without further ado, let's dive into how I broke a promise to someone, my reasons for doing that, and the advent of my behavior in our relationship. So to the first question on the focal point, which asked if I've ever broken a promise, my answer to that is yes, and below is the reason why.

A few years ago, I was in a relationship with my ex, and we were already planning on getting married. Both of our parents had met each other during a discussion about the planned union and deciding a date for that to play out, and trust me, I do love and cherish this lady and couldn't even wait to be joined in holy matrimony with her, who also happens to be my first love. But unfortunately for us, things went south between us due to a particular occurrence, and that made me go back on my word and break my promise of marriage to her.

Well, it happened that a few months before our supposed union, I paid her a surprise visit, and instead of me surprising her, I was the one who was welcomed with a surprising sight. When I arrived at her place, I met her in a compromising situation with someone else, and I couldn't stand the sight, nor could I find a place in my heart to forgive her given the fact that I loved, trusted, and never cheated on her prior to then, so I walked away dejected and annoyed.
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With what I witnessed, I had to cut ties between us and end the relationship, because if such were to happen a few months into a wedding ceremony, then there's no assurance that such a home would experience loads of infidelity going on on a regular basis, and with what happened and my reaction to it, that literally ended the relationship and any plans we were having. Although she and her family tried to reach out to me, I was too hurt to listen, so that was how our relationship ended.

Like I said, that occurrence broke our relationship, and neither did I wait to have anything to do with her. I guess we went about 2 years without talking until we started chatting once in a while on social media. I won't say we're close again, but we do chat once in awhile, and there's definitely not going to be any close interaction beyond those occasional conversations.

That's all about how I broke a promise. It's saddening that that happened, but I had no choice other than that. Thanks for reading through. The write-up was inspired by the Hive Learners community features prompt.

Thanks for your time. Have a wonderful night's rest.



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That really hurts, I can only imagine how you felt. I can't really say you did the right thing by just letting go of Everything just because of that occurrence but since you don't regret it then it's fine.

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Yea it's indeed disheartening.

It wasn't easy to decide but I've to make a decision that favours not just my present, but the future as well.

Thanks for your concern and sharing your thoughts.

Have a wonderful night rest.

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I don't think that situation was why you called it off, you must have saw something or heard something before that. I do believe that it is possible for someone to be set up especially when someone was not happy you both will soon be getting married.

Well, I do understand why you took that decision, that's a brilliant reason

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Lols, I'll comment my reserve.

But just so you know, I've heard from people she does that prior to that and refuse to believe.

And it's not a set-up, because it was her alleged ex.

Well that's gone.

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Exactly! There has to be More.

Good decision GP 😎

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That's too heavy to be held. You did the right thing to cut ties. When trust is broken, it's really hard to amend it.

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Yea relationship and homes are built on trust.

And when that isn't assured, it best to one leave instead of staying out of love and deal with inability to trust.

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It will really affect the relationship. You have done the best thing.

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Breaking that promise is valid though! You just prove that you are not stupid to keep that promise!

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That's just it, I've to be on the lookout for myself.

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There are two ways a promise can be broken, the first is well with a choice the second is base on circumstances, no matter what breaking it either ways isnt a good idea..

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I disagree with your theory on this subject matter, if some situations occurs, the best thing to do is break such promises for the good of everyone.

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Hmmmmm well am not sure what you mean by break one promise for the good one .. but all in all a promise should be predicted if or not it must be fulfilled

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Oh.....sorry man.

The reason why some promises are broken is not because we couldn't keep to our words,rather, the other party doesn't deserve it anymore. Hence no need to fulfill the promise.

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Yea that best explains my situation at that time.

Thanks for your kind words.

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