Nurturing kindness and individuality

One part of my upbringing that I cherish deeply and want to replicate in my raising my children is helping with house chores. Growing up my parents never let one person do the chores at home we did them together no matter how small the chore was. This included everything from tidying up the rooms to assisting with cooking, cleaning and some yard work.

I am really grateful for this upbringing because it taught me essential skills in life and instilled a strong work ethic.
While doing these house chores, I learnt the importance of teamwork and cooperation. I also developed skills that have really helped me such as cooking meals, cleaning, washing and mainintaining a clean and organized living space, it also helped me because I can do two things at the same time which my parents taught me. Helping with chores taught me the value of responsibility, it gave me a sense of pride to contribute to the well-being of my family and home.

As a mother I want to instill this I my children, be you about child or girl child. Some people say that because he is a boy child he should not wash plates, clothes or even know how to cook. I don't believe in that and because my parents raised all of us to know how to do these necessary chores, all my children will also know how to do them, it's really important.

While raising my children they will begin to do chores according to their age and as time progresses I will increase the chores. I want to make chores a positive experience where we work together as a family to achieve a common goal and take pride in it.

On the other hand one upbringing that I don't want to recreate in my children is the pressure to conform to high expectations and standards. Growing up, I experienced a certain level of pressure to meet academic, social and cultural expectations that felt overwhelming.
I am grateful for the experiences that my upbringing taught me but I recognize the importance of allowing my children the importance of exploring their own interests and passions.

I want to create an environment where my child feels supported, accepted and encouraged to be their best selves. I want to foster a sense of independence and self-expression, allowing them to pursue their own paths and discover their unique talents and strengths.

Instead of imposing rigid expect on my children, I want to focus on their individuality, creativity and self confidence. I want to create a positive atmosphere where they are free to explore and learn from both their successes and failures.

There are parts of my upbringing that I cherish and want to instill on my children and there are also parts that I want to approach differently. By instilling the value of helping with chores and fostering a supportive environment, I hope to raise a confident, happy and compassionate individuals who are equipped to survive in the world.