The Unexpected Reactions | Zero Mind To Gifting
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Had to give this particular topic a deep though because it been a while since I offend or someone offend me or I even apologise to anyone, for someone that always spend 80% of his life indoor and not even trying to talk to anyone won't really have who to offend or apologise to. Somehow, I fall into the weird people category 🤣 and any small thing, I will always say sorry because I don't like problem and I'm not looking for one, there is this situation that happened back in the days that made me zero my mind on some certain things especially gifting in any relationship concerning female because those genders we don't know what they really want.
When it come to buying gift for ladies, I'm kinda poor in that aspect, not in terms of money but knowing what to buy exactly, I will rather send money and allow you get whatever you want than to get you something randomly, even at some point, I get to ask my female friends which kind of gift do they always like, just call me the clueless guy. So there was a day my sister was importing bags (dropshipping) and I kinda love these bags and because I wanted to be the romantic guy bla bla, I decided to just buy some for this particular girl and I was kind of surprised she love them so after a long while, I travelled home and my church uncle invited me and my friend to one of his church daughter new shop where she made handmade bags for sale and because we came, she gifted us one male handbag each but she majorly made females bags, so me and my friend check some out and decided to buy so we can appreciate her, I brought 3 bags which to me was beautiful with the hope of gifting my girl when she comes visiting.
Hmmmm. she came and as the romantic guy who I though I was, gifted the bags with happy mood, she asked from where and I just hint her the story and how nice they are, before I know it, instead of hearing the thank you word, it was story upon story, you know that kind of ("I don't like this) look, I even though maybe because I said they wear hand made, most bags are handmade actually, well she criticised the bags to the extend that I started feeling sorry for myself, my inner mind was just saying "wow, wow, who send me message" and I had to start apologising but the shocking part and what actually made me vex was that those bags got abandoned in my room untouched. Somehow I was like even if they are that bad, at least, one should appreciate and maybe gift them out even if you don't want it and not just abandon it, it felt like throwing it back at my face, it really affected me o and I just lock my mind to gifting before someone will make me start apologising for trying to be romantic again.
Well after a year that the bags sat down pretty in my wardrobe, a friend of mine saw it and asked me to dash her because she like them and send me pictures after rocking them
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The english expression comes to mind, "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth". One should always be grateful when a gift is received even if it is not to our liking. After giving her bags before, you might have thought that you knew her taste. Her reaction sounds unpleasant as she made you feel terrible when you were being kind. However, it is a clear reflection of her character - not yours.
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that was what I thought actually, but the unpleasant reaction really got me
Personally I don't reject such gift.. imagine someone trying to be nice to me, the least I can do is to accept it with thanks and gift it out to someone else
That wasn't a great action from ur girl but I hope she learn better..lol
I hope she learn too though, really appreciate your comment ma
You are so gentlemanly to have apologized. I think that the lady wasn't at her best. You bought her a bag the first time that she loved. I believe that you assumed from that experience that you know her taste. She supposed to have accepted them with appreciation and gave them out to other people. She ended up stopping you from doing such again. Who knows maybe your next purchase would have been something she loves so much.
well she miss out because such reaction can block other gift
Exactly... Such reactions discourages one from gifting again.
I don't like people who don't appreciate things even if they won't take it. Common, "thank you, I appreciate your effort, but I don't like it" could go a long way not to make the one who got them feel unhappy. Also, I am not good at gifting people gifts and I would rather stylishly ask what you love so I can get it instead.
not really good at gift also but at times it is hard to ask your gender, they might be like ooh since you know me, you don't knw what I like bla bla
Rough luck with the gifts. Next time maybe ask her taste in advance hehehe. But yeah, a simple "thanks" goes a long way.
really appreciate your comment
it's please dear friend
wowow this is a rare case where a girl is not happy to see the hangbag, I am sure there could be something else which bothered her. I was laughing while reading your story, soory for that but it actually made me laugh when i read : those genders we don't know what they really want.
seriously, they want us to be able to read their mind at times
their minds hahahah which is impossible to read or even if we get closer , they change their minds
These are some mistakes people made that they call petty. Truly, you should have just jejely stay on your line.
To me, i feel she was just proving who she really was, i mean that's a total bad character.. Am not sure she was even aware of her mistakes...
It's good someone else who knew it's worth, came for it.
I just lock up, it made me feel like I was the one that pass my line, I knw better now
Smiles, you sure do💯