Signs A Man Is Broken

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At times I do wonder who made it a rule that we men have to be strong always and show no sign of weakness or even cry at will, some people believe a man must not be down and should be stable, if you aren't then you are either not the serious one or definitely a weak man. Most times when I see guys sitting at a corner with the "God help me" look, I do wonder what might be going through those guys mind, it is very common to be mentally stressed as a man, it is even a usual thing because responsibilities choke, I just wish we can also sit pretty and be taken care of like the other gender. It is only on rare cases you will see a man opening up about what he is going through unless he is with his fellow man because they are the only one who can really understand or imagine how hard it is to be a man.

One good sign to know a broken man is through his withdrawal or silence on certain things, it is one of the indicator to know if someone is going through a lot, nothing will look interesting to them, they will always find every means necessary to avoid social gatherings or even talk to anyone just because they don't want to look vulnerable and you people, they will always judge. We always have this common statement, "I will be fine" or "I'm alright" just to hide the pain, if you ask a man if he is ok and he respond with the I'm alright word, check him well and get him an ice cream (just kidding).

The one that scare me the most is finding them abusing substance just because they are going to a lot and they though using those stuff will help them lift their mood or clear their head, I once saw a guy who I was viewing as a gentle man, smoking secretly in a corner, I was surprised and asked him why, all he could say was parent pressure was too much and he just had to start clearing his mind with stuff, ehhh Cigarette is now the only way to clear your mind was what came out of my mouth 🤣 (God abeg). He was already getting use to it to the extend that he must take 2 sticks a week, and I know with time 2 will turn to 4 and he will be addicted to it, well he stopped after finding out it is not even helping, you will be high normally but will that solve the problem or pressure on ground, big NO, after you un-high you will be back to the same problem.

Eyy Depression and Anxiety is real and it is one sign to know a broken man, I'm a living testimony 🤣, I remember when I chopped early morning breakfast because I wasn't expecting it at that point in time, I was as if someone sat me down and give me 2 bowls of depression water to drink, I started loving my gadgets more and my bed became my comfort zone, I realise there is love in my room so why finding one outside. Well we are humans too and don't have an immune system to pain, I just hope one day we guys will be comfortable enough to share what we go through on a daily basis