What makes child a spoilt brat?

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**Child does what he sees rather than what he is told****

Ottoman's famous adage is:

“If your kids are not making noise behind your sallah then pity on your future.”

The philosophy of famous Italian reformist Maria Montessori is “ The best method that can be employed to teach kids is letting him learn naturally. Do not impose your lessons and advice on them. Provide them with a facilitating atmosphere and they will learn themselves.”

It has been noticed that those kids who are excessively rebuked and censured for the mistakes they commit during mischievous acts possess a retarded nervous system. Their mind processes orders and advises more than learning and innovation. The use of violence against a child even to bring positive changes in his personality, diminishes his intellect.

I have always been an ambassador of soft policy towards kids. According to me, kids must be shown by practical example whatever you want them to learn. A kid learns better in a friendly environment than under force. Force either ignites rebellious thoughts and stubbornness or hampers mental growth. Too many reprimands also derogate the kid in his own eyes and circumvent the real soul of him to get exposed. So, I believe that kids must be taught every lesson of life with affection and practicals.

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But in the meantime, there are those kids as well who misuse affection and softness. Letting them do whatever they want also results in such mischievous acts which become a symbol of shame for parents and if most heinous then for society as well. Too much love and not stopping them from wrongs make them spoilt brats. Parents cannot restrain their kids in their absolute affection and it sometimes results in embarrassing acts from kids either in the form of misbehavior or infarction in society.

So who is responsible for it?
Kid himself?
Parents?
Or
A society that induces negativity in him?

There was a time when I used to judge people by their race and caste. I believe that people of reputable races are contributors to society and possess good traits to bring positivity to the world. My nature didn’t let me intermingle with people of other castes. And this was the most illiterate, conservative, and ill-minded version of me. But as I grew up, I realized that people of (as called) higher class can be rogues and nobels can emerge from (as called) lower classes. It is upbringing that matters a lot. After that, I started judging the upbringing of the people by their fairness in daily doings, by their respect for women, kids, and elders, and by their behavior and attitude towards others.

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But more exposure to the world by increasing interaction has also divulged to me that it is not upbringing that is responsible alone. Even the kids of persons who were undoubtedly incarnate of nobility, become the most nefarious hoodlums. Even the parents who would always be taking care of their kids become the victims of their misbehavior as well.

According to me, the reasons for misbehavior and wrong attitude of kids are:

1. Overindulgence of parents:

Too much affection and love from parents boost their kids and they take the wrong advantage of it. They know that they are the weakness of their parents and whatever would be done by them would be ignored and pardoned surely. Due to this overindulgence, the chances of becoming a spoilt brat increase.

1. Deficiency of attention:

This is opposite to the previous one. Sometimes parents cannot pay proper attention to their kids due to busy schedules and carelessness. Kids don’t get proper training and upbringing. They are set free to do anything they want because they have no accountability over them and hence end in many pestering activities.

1. Lack of practical examples:

Parents advise and teach their kids. They give them long lectures on ethics and morals but they would be found violating all the societal norms and ethical values. A father will be condoning his kid from lies and he will be speaking hundreds of lies before his kid. This leaves a very bad impression. A kid gets the behavior of their parents. A quarreling atmosphere will induce aggression into him.

1. Society’s effect:

Society exerts a greater influence on the personality of kids. They are immature and their mind cannot differentiate between right and wrong. So they don’t hesitate to do whatever they see in society or whatever those who are around them, lure them to.

1. Kid’s attributes and mindset:

Sometimes negativity and wickedness automatically make their place in the minds of kids. Getting influenced by many factors, disrespect, and misbehavior become the nature of their personality and all efforts to neutralize their mal-behavior prove futile because their mind inculcates such behavior as their right.

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