Red In The Flag..

I couldn’t let it off my head what my eyes saw today and already had planned on sharing the gist with you guys, only to meet the topic here lol
Do we call this fate then?😅

So I was all about my business this morning like every other working day until I heard shouts from my next shop Neighbor. In my mind, “These two have started again”. The shop is owned by the man and the lady who didn't let us with words today is the girlfriend of the man or should I say ex. As either of them refused to acknowledge each other anymore.
While the girl ceased his credit-paying machine and called him names in the process, the guy just sat back smiling and giving that action of “God why me” with his head.
He’s a close neighbor and of course, I knew a little about what could have resulted in the girl’s yells and saucy words.
As I was also a close girlfriend to the girl I knew the guy wasn’t the only man in her life, my neighbor knew that too but she always told him to his face how incapable he was and that’s the reason why she went out with the other. The guy likewise does the same and according to him, it started when the relationship became less serious.

Fast forward to after their little fight. Trust me to be a good friend ready to calm my neighbor down, I mean the gyu. In that state, I got the full story of his girl’s annoyance.

In his words, they were both in his house while he was in the kitchen cooking and only for a call to come through his phone, and while he was yet speaking, his girlfriend kept her ear close to the phone, I believe to hear the lady from the other end of the call and he shifted his phone to the next ear and walked out, just to come back and find out that she left his house, to over a text message from her later that night accusing him for disrespecting her with his other girlfriends.

Oh! What a story right?
Well, since I know them better believe me when I say am in no support of either of them. They both got red flags, and everyone got red flags but theirs were too obvious yet they choose not to accept the fact that what they both have in the long run is an open relationship in the making.
There’s more to the story but I choose to end it here.

I know for a fact that not every guy could be with me in as much as the first thing that all my toasters compliment on aside from beauty is “you’re hardworking”.
The majority of my admires pick that as a green check but when I look at them from the first approach and words spoken I know it wouldn’t take long to become a red flag for them and that alone is a red flag for me. So yes, I speak of judgmental eyes.

While some may compliment my hard work because they were genuinely intrigued, others say it is a medium to talk me into sitting at home while they pay my bills.
On different occasions have seen that reoccur over and over again.
I remembered one time when one of the persons in this custody asked me if a 100k would be enough for a start to have me seated at home instead of working.

As pretty as it might sound to a lot of ladies o guess, it was a big red flag to me because, in my opinion, I wasn’t only insulted but likewise my business and trust guys to later see me as a proud lady when I refused such offer, and in that stage, I become their red flag too.

Now about the story I shared, I can never be in an undefined relationship that lost its direction. I believe in hints and I pick up every bit of it whether in a talking stage or when we become serious because anything is liable to happen. I took upon a self-principle guide, especially in the aspect of relationships. Where I got myself rules and also rules for my partner. It’s a rule I draw the moment we both agree to start up something and I make it clear letting you in from my end on what would happen if any of it is broken at any point in time.
Truthfully speaking, I don’t know how people do it, having multiple partners to see it as normal but it just can’t be me.

I respect my body, I value my time and while I invest my efforts in full capacity only to be met with another thing? It surely can’t be me who would sit back to manage or bear or later bend my self will all in the name of payback and before you know it once upon a time the serious relationship had turned into an open one making it more difficult for either party to request the breakup.
I believe every relationship has a standing and once we don’t clear the air for the red flags that could be curable, it would only get worse and probably end in tears at the end of the day.