Long-distance relationships for the win.

Gently, he snuck his big arms around my waist, pulled me closer and planted a soft kiss on my forehead. Then, tears uncontrollably flowed down my cheeks. He had come for a visit, and it was time to leave, but I couldn’t bear to see my love leave me behind. So, a big girl like me can cry? Don’t blame me. It was love…

Wait a minute… my imagination is at work again. ah ah.

That would’ve been me if I’ve ever had that moment in all the long-distance relationships I’ve had, but last last, everything ended in tears. Did you just ask how? Okay, thank you very much for asking that question.

The major issue we had at first was lack of communication. I mean, how will you think you’ve hit the jackpot of being with Miss world, yet you decided to not call or text for 5 days, and then you’ll return after a week break to ask how my day went? Okay, which of the days exactly should I start with? I mean, I had fallen ill, gotten better, stayed hungry because I decided not to eat and finally ate after I patted myself on the back and begged myself to eat, gotten perched by one big mosquito, yet I suffered all the sufferings alone without having someone to tell. Is that how this long-distance relationship use to be? I’m not a jealous lover, even though I am a bit jealous, I couldn’t help thinking there were other people in the relationship with us. That’s what happens when there’s a gap in communication.

Long-distance relationships are beautiful if both parties are willing to put in the work. Staying within the same vicinity requires a level of trust, commitment, and communication, however, a long-distance requires double the effort.

Communication is one non-negotiable factor that holds a long-distance relationship. Regular check-ups and check-ins on both video calls and audio calls will go a long way in making sure the relationship stays healthy and keeps growing. Even though atimes, you want to just hold your partner close, have pillow fights, pull each other’s ears and much more, maintaining strong communication will give reassurance that the day for that will finally come.

Please, note. The communication isn’t just about the lovey-dovey. Having an open communication about random and important things is vital to keeping the relationship working.

Having honest conversations about your feelings and worries, talk about the new friend that’s of the other gender and the detail of it. Even talk about the ex that you’ve not blocked and is asking for another chance in your life. Lol. Having open conversations about these things will prevent the situation of besties, friends with benefits and other type of situationships that may exist.

Have you ever been in a situation where you just want to go to the gym, or do chores with the love of your life? You can creatively do that virtually. Try doing that on occasion, and the connection will grow deeper. Cook same meal together, eat together, workout together and even go on dates virtually on a pre-agreed day. All these will contribute to the fondness you have for each other and immensely contribute to the growth of the relationship.

Even after doing all the above, regular visit is one important factor in maintaining a healthy relationship. This is the time to put all your imaginations into action. The occasional visits will be helpful in building intimacy and connection in the relationship.

Despite all the shege I’ve seeing in past long-distance relationships, I’ll still try again because I have coconut head. Somehow, it’s appealing to me than seeing that man every day. I will just become a spoilt brat that cannot lift a cup of water by herself.

image is mine.

Posted Using InLeo Alpha