An option to regret or to regret.
It all started when I got a call from an elderly in school. It was about a new student in our school that had just been handed over to them. According to the parents, she needed guidance about some things, and it was important that she didn’t fall in wrong hands, especially in relation to the scavengers of the young naïve girls who had newly gained admission.
Everything was going fine until this new girl fell in love, but none of the elders knew about it. She was in a romantic relationship with one of my guy friends who I respected and cherished, however, he was in another school. When I heard about their relationship, I was happy and that’s because the guy is intelligent and super smart, so I was sure that she was safe in there. Oh, how wrong was I.
The reason for the call was to inform me that the guy was likely just playing around with her, as he was in a serious relationship with another person that I also know. He had introduced the other girl to some of his family members and was just whiling away time with this new girl.
At first, I didn’t believe it because he was my friend after all. So, I should be able to confirm the story with him. “But, come to think of it, I never knew he had a girlfriend. He never made the mistake of mentioning any girl in my presence, I thought. Maybe he forgot”. These were the conversations I had with myself while I was trying to understand why he didn’t mention anything about being in a relationship to me. So, I did try to ask him, and I was met with a threat.
In his words, “if anyone ever tries to ask me about this situation again, then I won’t take it lightly with the person”.
I was supposed to be his friend, yeah? Why would he threaten me because of a simple question.
The new girl fought with everybody including me shouting at the top of her voice that it was all a lie that they never had a thing. Well, I almost gave up asking when she approached me and said, they indeed were in a romantic relationship, but he convinced her not to tell anyone.
The first sign of trouble where she should have known was when he told her to mute all of us, his friends on her WhatsApp and made sure not to post a picture of them unless we were blocked. The second red flag was telling her not to inform anybody of her whereabouts whenever she travelled to see him. One more was making sure her gallery was tightly secured so that people wouldn’t mistakenly see a picture of them together. I don’t blame her though. She was naïve.
When I knew the details of their relationship, it was important that I chose a side. The new girl or my friend? Our friendship was more than three years, and I just knew this girl, so who exactly should I support? I did choose a side, and it was the side of the truth, the new girl.
The entire situation was messy that at some point, the girl tried to commit suicide, but for the support she had, it wasn’t fatal. The option was either to regret losing the new girl to depression and lack of support or lose the friendship.
At the end of it all, I lost the friendship, but I regret nothing, because at the long run, the girl was saved, her heart was mended, and she was back to herself because people like me chose to support her.
Why am I sharing this? It’s a reminder that when you’re stuck in picking a side, make sure you are on the side of the truth irrespective. You don’t know whose life you may save. Moreover, remember that you don’t need bad people on your side.
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Omo, this story is actually sad. Thank God she didn't commit suicide. It wouldn't have been worth it. And for your long-time friend to not trust you and also do that kind of thing, that was awful.
If she had no support, it would've been a fatal situation. And for the friend? Some friendships aren't meant to last anyway. Seeing that part of him put an end to the friendship already.
Thanks for stopping by. 🌹
Hi, Omo B. Life presents us with tough decisions, and it is up to us to choose what we consider most important. I’m glad you made the right decision, and I’m sorry you lost something in the process.
My handsome teacher. Thank you for dropping by. However, I wasn't pained that I lost a friend, rather I was glad I saw that part of him early enough to put an end to the friendship.
You did lose something but would you really count it as loss if it's for the greater good of all. Sometimes we have to lose something to be able to gain even greater. I know that first hand. And I'm glad it worked out in the end for the girl.🌺
Thank you very much. I didn't count the loss as a subtraction, rather, I counted it as a positive subtraction.
Thank you very much for reading through.