Why Men Lose Themselves in Love—And How to Avoid It

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When a man falls in love, especially in the early stages, he often finds himself preoccupied and distracted by his emotions. The love he feels becomes the reason for his way of life. I saw this somewhere and I find it to be true that if a man dearly loves a woman, he is willing to give up his happiness, his principles, and his morals for the woman. And that alone can be seen in the beginning of Adam and Eve, when eve gave adam the forbidden fruit to eat. Adam, knowing it was against his will, ate the fruit regardless because of his love for Eve. He ate it when he knew the consequences of eating the fruit just because he doesn't want to be separated from her.

What am I driving out here? When a man loves this way, when he is willing to break his principles and morals for anything, not necessary having to even be a woman, it does not end well.



How does a Woman love?

What about the love a woman has? Men love differently than women, who are easily influenced by their emotions and feelings. They choose to stay with the man who they are attracted to, who makes them feel safe, and who still have a sense of mystery to explore in them. From the same place I read about that of a man, it also said, most women, if not all, would never give up their happiness for a man. To some sense, it is true but I leave it to you to decided what you think is true.



What Men fail to realise

What men fail to realise, especially when they are inexperienced or in their early stages, is that aside from being broke, they don't need to change who they are for a woman. If a woman would love you, it would be for who you are, and if you begin to change who you are to prove your love for her, that is when you will begin to lose her because you are no longer the man she had fell in love with initially.

As a man, continue to build on yourself, work on yourself, be the man you want to be and let the reason for what you do be for you. Don't change or bend your principles, your morals, or give up your happiness because of anyone because it would not end well.



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"Never give up your happiness for anyone"
That is one major thing I'll be taking away from this piece..

Thanks for sharing, Starstrings.

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yeah brother... that is the main point. Never give up your happiness for anyone.

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Love Doctor at it again. Hehe

I think that the problem with why some men normally bend their principles for women is because they pedestalize them. They have a scarcity mindset which makes them feel that they should be thankful to be dating a woman like that. It's completely normal to think that your woman is amazing and vice versa, but it's good to still note that you're both lucky to have each other. They're not too good for you, and neither are you for them. You're both the prize, and should be lucky to have each other.

From the same place I read about that of a man, it also said, most women, if not all, would never give up their happiness for a man. To some sense, it is true but I leave it to you to decided what you think is true.

I think I've come across something similar myself. The author was contemplating the pathetic irony that men sacrifice their happiness for the women they love, whiles women sacrifice men for their happiness. Like you said, it's a delicate matter, but it probably holds some truth.

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Assistant love doctor at it again

Wise words...

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Boss, please drop your wisdom on this lemme tap like I always do.

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Me? I'm man of fight, sir.

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Is there even any love left in this generation?

They say women love lies so men lie in order to get women. In a way , it’s true but most men mistake compromising their values and many more to lies.

In the process of you thinking you’re lying to get a woman, you have to keep your act up until you can’t any longer. It’s really not worth it if you ask me.

And to add to that, most men and even women have transitioned to the act of manipulating one another. Sigh, what a time to be alive!😂

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Our ancestors thought they had fun. They should check 2024 out

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I wonder how it would be for the next generation after us. I hope it is not gonna be a wreck.

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I am thinking about what to say because I am totally inexperienced in this case. I think when it's about love, I am sure many people may have different perspectives.

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yeah true... many people have different perspectives of love.

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you fallen in love recently bud. Don't lose yourself TT

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you fallen in love recently bud. Don't lose yourself TT

didn't fall in love recently my guy!

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I don't know man. this post is kinda giving that vibe lol

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