Creating an Accountability Partnership with Friends for Self-Development
In my school, I have in a way formed a close relationship with a group of people, and we have become so close to the extent that we do a lot of things together aside from just what we do in school. We have become friends, not just coursemates. We try to help each other grow and contribute to each other's success.
We did this at random, not on purpose. We did not in any way intentionally decide to come together to be accountable to each other, but somehow things are beginning to change in a way that I like.
One of my friends added me to a group yesterday and named it the "Accountability Partners Group," and there happen to be three other people in the group. Although I have a lot of friends with whom I have a strong relationship and with whom I check in, when I look at these three guys in particular, we share a lot of interests, from school to the hive to technology.
The group idea was coined by my friend Monioluwa, who thought that it would be great if we had shared goals, personal goals, and were also accountable to each other. That way, it would be easy for us to accomplish our shared goals and personal goals altogether. The purpose of this alignment is self-development and bringing out the best in each other in all aspects of our lives, not just academics.
I really loved the sound of that, and it felt like something I really wanted to do as well.
We had our first discussion, and we discussed how we can improve ourselves. One of the goals we had was to read more books this year, and that is only possible if we set goals for it. So we decided on reading at least one book per month. Each of us would read different books, and in the next month, we would exchange books with ourselves.
"Definitely, the books we would be reading are self-improvement books."
Also, to be sure that we are reading the books, it is important to record what we learn about each book, so during one of our meetings, we would come together to briefly discuss what we have learned from the book every two weeks. This way, we would not only be reading but also remembering that we needed to explain some key points we learned about what we had read.
One of my personal goals for this year was to start reading books, and I believe the universe has found a way to make this happen. First, I am not a person who likes reading books, and I have never read a book to half its pages.Now, I am someone who has almost finished reading Atomic Habits by James Clear, which I picked up late last year.
I hope to see how this alliance will positively affect our individual lives and how far we can go together as partners accountable to each other.
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That's a good idea @starstrings01, for sure it's a big help to have someone helping you achieving your goal. One book per month is so good and hopefully you can finish it before the end of the month.
Me, I have read some books that already finished. I love books that talk about health, relationship and motherhood or parenthood as I am already a mother.
Yeah. I get why you like those kind of books because it is something that you can easily relate with as a mother.
The whole stuff wasn’t my idea but my friend’s. I love the idea too.
You are the company you keep, surround yourself with friendship groups that will benefit you and help grow you as a person
Yeh that's the exact statement for what's happening. Something people should keep in mind .
Monioluwa took a great step in creating that group because of how much help you have said it will do to you.
Reading is a good habit which I am terrible at, I easily get bored spending so much time at a point reading. Doing it in group will definitely motivate you guys to do it and I believe that a lot can be achieved by working together or as an individual if we choose to be accountable for one another.
Yes, it's tedious, but I believe that if you keep doing it, you'll get better at it. As a group, we are reading different books for each person.
As someone with a little background in human psychology and behaviour, I can reassure you that you're taking a step in the right direction. While sometimes, it is easy and a bit more convenient for some people to work in isolation, for the most part others and a majority of us would prefer working as teams, especially when you have a strong team in which teammates assume a new title from simply being teammates to becoming "accountability partners".
In addiction management and recovery, the role of accountability partners have been explored and utilized time and again, and any psychologist will tell you that it always works. That's why you see men likely stopping smoking when they get married with their wife being their accountability partner compared to single people.
You'll see how much you can achieve if you go insync with you AC partners. For me, I don't have that close and tight knit of friends, maybe I should just marry and make my wife my AC partner 🤣
I also like working in isolation too, it let's me plan and think well but at the same time, I know now it important it is to be accountable to someone. That way one gets motivated to get things done.
You should do fast to Marry oh. Don't forget to invite me for your wedding. Na that party jollof T wan chop.
Lol. No be small. Make time reach na, make everything complete for the marriage. 😂
This intention reminds me of an adage that says, problem shared is half solved.
For sure, if I have a set goal and kept it personal, I may not be able to achieve it. You guys opinion is better. Let the bond continue