An Interesting Topic About Knowing Who To Marry

Today being Sunday means I have to go to church as this is how I was brought up since childhood. But this time, I didn't go to my regular church as I had chosen not to be present there for a few months, more like taking a break and having to find time to do other things.

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I went out to a friend's church not too far from where I stayed and really had a nice time with their service. At first, I thought I would not be around, so I didn't initially plan to visit the church but it happened.

The main highlight of the service was the sermon for me. I was really impacted by what the preacher talked about. The title was about Discerning the will of God for a relationship. But because I slept really late, at the beginning of the sermon, I slept off before I began to listen to what he was preaching.

The pastor talked about the 4 pillars of marriage, and I will be sharing them here based on what I understood from the preaching.

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1. Understanding Mind

Here is the point I was able to understand

It is important to marry someone you share the same purpose with, someone who has the same mindset and beliefs. Marrying someone just for beauty and looks would end up being a wrong marriage. The main reason for marriage is that two become one, and therefore do things according to attaining the same vision, not separate visions.

2. Choice of Marriage

For this, I don't know but I ended up not really picking points what I think the preacher referred to here is

Anybody can marry any way they want, whether through a church, mosque, event centre or at the registry.

3. Preparing for Marriage:

What resources have you read about marriage, how much counselling have you gone through?

4. Marriage management:

This was quite one of the most funny. He said with $10, one can get married. It doesn't have to be expensive. In his words, people mistake marriage for a wedding, marriage itself begins after the day of the wedding.

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From the whole 1 hour sermon, the main point I got is that recognition of one's purpose is important before going into marriage. Someone who doesn't have a vision of what he wants in life should not marry until he figures it out as this is important in figuring out the right person to be with.

Marrying because of love and beauty alone is something dangerous, as they both fade in time but marrying someone with whom your visions align brings a longtime partnership of fulfilling purpose.

Another major point that hit me was: when looking for a partner, list those qualities you want in that person and try to be those things. If you want a partner who knows how to cook, try to ask yourself do you know how to cook.

If you want to marry a rich partner, try to ask yourself are you rich? If not then become all you want in your partner yourself first.

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The sermon was so nice and interactive. It was also funny as there were funny moments. He carried the youth along and related it to a real-life situation.

That's all for now. Take care.