ACCEPTANCE

Good day to my dear readers, after a long break on hive which I will be sharing about in my subsequent posts I want to say I missed this family. It's is very cold here in Lagos, Nigeria this morning, due to heavy down pour that happened overnight which is something we should be expecting more as we approach the month of June.
Firstly, I am grateful for the gift of life and good health. For some period I have been down with sickness but now I'm strong and ready to face life with a grateful heart. I will be writing on a very important relationship key that I feel we need more in this period because many are being hurt due to lack of it. This key is ACCEPTANCE.

Acceptance is an act of loving people the way they are, accepting them for who they really are, without comparing them with others and without complaining about their weaknesses.
Acceptance is not only for spouses but it cut across all types of relationship. When I was small I did not like my mom that much because I wanted her to be a little bit chubby, bold and rich. I compare her to some of her friends that are rich. I was very stubborn and rude to her because of that I did not appreciate all her struggles just to make us have a good life.

(My mom and I)

When I visited my friends and see the way their mothers behave and knowing that my mom is more educated than them yet they look smarter than her makes me feel somehow towards her. I think it was due to my inexperience then. Little did I know I was hurting her. I wanted her to be who she wasn't. She likes expressing herself and outspoken but I prefer a more reserved person, she prefer to spend on us than on herself. Anytime she buys a nice outfit she will rather give it to my sisters and wear something not too attractive. But I wanted her to look rich, I was always complaining.
Not until I started reading books on understanding people and how to strengthen relationship I realized I was wrong all these while. I found peace after accepting her for who she really is and loved her for all her sacrifices. Being a widow at a very young age was something that could have led to depression but instead she poured all her love and attention on her children. She doesn't like dressing much, to her, covering ones nakedness is the priority.

( My wonderful students)

Understanding individual differences matters alot. I have had encounter with different people and I feel how some people are hurting inside. As an educationist and a counselor to my learners I feel many of them perform woefully because they feel they are not loved. Most parents do not accept the fact that their children have their different abilities. They tend to praise one over another even in the presence of these children, this is not good enough. We must love them for who they are and try to bring out the best in them.
I feel I should share the importance of acceptance in relationship due to a recent happening between I and a very close friend of mine. I was always complaining about this or that because I wanted him to be in the image I created in my mind for him. I wanted him to be a lover boy that always calls, I wanted our relationship to be like love movies. Little did I know I was showing my displeasure to him and I never pay attention to the reality. He loves me, accepted me the way I am, never complained not because I don't have faults but because he understands my uniqueness. I almost lost him, it was when he left me I realized I was wrong. He has many qualities I wished I had paid attention to. I had to apologize to him and he made me know why he never complained about me and just accept whatever I'm doing even without considering him. We are good friends today because I accept him for who he is.

( Your beautiful writer)

Many husbands are not accepted in their homes. Some are with who they are because they couldn't get what they wanted. You might feel he/she will change to fit your taste. My dear, the reality is you can't change him or her by complaining, you need to find a place to accept them, show them love and gradually you will enjoy them for who they really are.
As a parent never compare your children with other children. Accept them as perfect the way they are, love them even when they don't look like what you wanted, believe me they will appreciate you more for that. As friends, lets give room for acceptance, respect the feeling of others and treat people base on their uniqueness. If we are all the same, life will be too boring. God knows what he is doing and why he created people they way they are. And finally as couples accept one another's uniqueness, don't compare your wife to your friend's wife neither do you compare your husband to other men. We are blessed differently and can make each other better by love and acceptance. Let me know your view in the comments section. Have a wonderful weekend.