To Build Confidence, Set Achievable Goals

When you take a random sampling of the dreams of people, you will be surprised how massive they look. Of course, there is nothing bad in having some big things that you want to achieve, this is why we are being advised and motivated to dream big. But on the same hand, you have to make the goal to be something you can achieve, so that it will not end up becoming a discouragement for you and beating down your confidence. Trust me, there is a kind of dream you will have and after you have tried and failed on it repeatedly, your confidence will be totally lost. But if you set something achievable or break the big dreams into easily achievable bits, it will make it easier.

While growing up, there was this particular man within our neighbourhood that always advised us to think big and have insanely big dreams. At that point, because we were kids, we all started dreaming some wild things - how to go to another planet, how to own this and that. However, what we did not understand was that these thing do not achieve themselves, and as such, the dreams just ended up as mere dreams. When we got older, we realized that the process of breaking down one's dream into smaller fragments can create the confidence needed to pursue after it. For example, instead of waiting for when you will go to planet Mars, just start by applying to NASA to become an astronaut first.

There are always steps to follow in order for you to achieve your goal and dream. If you want to jump to the end-product without passing through the process, you may not achieve the desired result. There is always a kind of joy and enthusiasm to keep going when you realise the first dream you have set. Imagine having a big dream, then break it up into 5 smaller stages of micro-dreams. When you have undertaken the first micro-dream successfully, it will give you the enthusiasm to go over to the next one and just like that, you will achieve the bigger one.

It is worthy to note that confidence is very needed in order to achieve success, and you need to sustain it. Just to make it clear, confidence is not about knowing that you can do something, it goes beyond that into proving that you can actually do what you think you can do. If you have tried something over and again without having a headway in it, there is a tendency that it will reduce your self-confidence. This is why I advise people that they should start from the simpler task and then work themselves through to the difficult ones, not the other way round. When you scale through the easier one successfully, you will have the confidence to undertake the much harder one.

Whenever you are faced with a very hard task to do, it will feel very normal to tend to lose confidence and even see yourself like your abilities are insufficient to handle it. At that point, what you should do is to break the tasks into manageable bits. With that way, it will not be intimidating to you and you can undertake and achieve it. By gradually undertaking and accomplishing the manageable bits, it will build up your confidence over time. This will also set your mentality aright to keep going in the pursuit of your dream. Remember that you will need confidence in order to actualize your desired goal.

What some people call difficult or impossible task is simply because they have not taken time to break the seemingly impossible task into micro-tasks. When they do, they will realise that what they have seen as a mountain is simply a function of their mentality. Your mentality can go a long way to affect and determine many things about both your present and your future. When your mentality is fashioned in a way that you will know how to turn your big dreams into micro-dreams and take them in chunks, you will be able to achieve more than you can ever imagine. So instead of being discouraged by the thoughts of a difficult task, just see it as doable and take it one after the other.

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