The Power of Good Manners to Open Good Doors of Opportunities

Sometimes last month, I went into an office to get some official assignment done. When I got there, I was told that the window period for it was already passed and I was not aware of it. Just when I was about to leave, the man called me back and told me that he will do it for me because of my manner of approach when I met him outside. I had to reflect my mind back and remembered that I had initially met him without even knowing that he was the Manager of the company. He got the assignment done for me and I went home very happy. Imagine if I had talked rudely to him before, it would have closed the door against the opportunity. But good manners actually opened the way for the door of opportunities. This goes to prove the power of good manners.

I have come to understand that someone's success in life can be dependent on their character and their manners. Having a good interpersonal relationship can be enhanced by being of a good manners, which can also make people to value you. You will agree with me that people will normally be drawn to the people that are of good character rather than the person who is rude and uncultured. In fact, your good manners have already given you an edge over a lot of others. You will be surprised that there are things that your qualifications cannot give you but your good attitude can.

In your place of work for example, your qualifications can grant you an employment opportunity and can even make you employed, but to sustain you there, there are many other factors that will come into play - like your interpersonal relationships. I once worked under a Head of Department during my internship time who was very rude with a very mean manner of approach. Anytime you approach her for an assistance with work, she would downplay your efforts and make you feel almost worthless. In fact, the zeal to work became almost nonexistent and the whole interns were tired of her attitude. It got to the management about what she was doing and they too were not too happy with her.

The truth is that she has extensive experience and outstanding academic qualifications which qualified her for the position and more, but it was like it got into her head and she did whatever she liked. Well, when one of the top management staff resigned and some people thought that she would become the replacement for the position, but what the Director did shocked everyone. He picked someone else who was two steps lower than her to become the replacement. The guy was well-mannered, cultured, with good interpersonal relationship, and willing to learn, which the company needed at that time. His good manners created way for him that his qualifications could not have gotten him.

It is always adorable to treat people well and to have good manners. At the heart of having good manners is learning to treat people in the way that you would love if you are treated the same way. If you know that if someone does something to you and you will not like it, then it will make no sense to do the same thing to someone else. People are generally prompted to reciprocate to you in the same way you have acted towards them. That is; if you treat people well, then it is almost certain that they will treat you well.

It does not cost anything to be good-mannered, rather you gain a lot more from it. There are words that you need to keep handy and use them adequately, they are; "please, thank you, excuse me, I am sorry, please pardon me." All these words may seem normal, but the power they can command is without question. Also remember to smile a lot - it makes you appear adorable and of course, people will see you as being friendly. If people perceive you as being friendly, they will not have any problem being around you and even providing assistance to you in many ways. Always remember that having a good manner makes you a better human.

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