Pain and Disrespect (Tired but couldn't leave)

Ada does fast na, no dey waste my time, abi man dey knack you dey do for there? I spoke to her in pidgin language, which means, Ada please be fast, or are you having fun with a man inside there? Ada shouted from inside, no! Which man I wan con dey have fun with this early morning? (which man will I be having fun with this early morning? ). I said I don't know for you, these days everything is possible. She said yeah, but not this one.

Immediately, she walked out of her door, dressed so elegantly and fiercely beautifully, ah! I shouted, Ada, what mission do you have today? Why dress to kill today? Do you have anybody you want to execute? She laughed sheepishly and asked, so dressing fine means I have a mission? She looked at me like a girl been praised by her crush. I responded, you are not just dressed fine, you dressed as if you have a mission at hand, you dressed so lovelily, Kai, mike will lose concentration today oo, we both smiled while we walk to the class.

Mike was one of the numerous boys who has been trying all they could to get down with Ada, but none of them could penetrate her tinder heart, talk more of getting her to pull her pants. They have tried all they could, mike even bought her iPhone 7plus, as of the time it came out new. She was one of the first people to use such an expensive gadget in our class, courtesy of mike. There was no weekend mike doesn't take us out. Being a friend to Ada, made me friends with a lot of guys. I enjoyed it a lot because they will tip me with money to help them speak to Ada. I tried talking to Ada, a couple of times, especially on behalf of mike, but Ada wouldn't bend.

Mike was a very handsome young man, fair in complexion, has this pinky lips that made girls want to kiss him, on spot. Very funny guy, mike would walk into a place, and by just looking at him, you will start laughing. He has this funny look and funny way he does things, that you can't help but laugh whenever he is around. He was loved by almost everybody in the class, but Ada, ah!! That girl, a very hard nut to crack. Mike can't understand why, Ada refused to date him, despite all he has done for her.

As we trekked down to the class, we gist, we laughed, oftentimes people think I and Ada have something going. Some think we are secret lovers covering up as friends. But because they don't have evidence yet, they are keeping it to their chest. But like they said, walls have ears, we hear a lot of rumours. But since none of them have the balls to ask us or say it to our faces, we pretended as if we don't know what'd going on in their minds.

On our way to class, we saw a guy slapping a girl, by the side, I and Ada were wondering what was going on. We stood and watch, the guy pushed the girl, slapped her again, and was shouting at her seriously. I rushed towards them, helped the girl to stand up, and asked her what was the matter, she said, I should mind my business and that what is happening is none of my business. Ah! I looked at Ada in disbelief, she looked at me surprised. I said okay oo if that's what you would say no problem.

I turned and asked the guy, what the problem was, and he said I shouldn't mind this girl, that she thinks she can tie him down, I asked him how do you mean. Tie you down? He said because she caught him with another girl last night, she came to his house this morning to harass him. I was speechless for a moment, I looked at the girl, looked at the guy, and I said is that all? And I asked the guy, why are you now beating and slapping her? What did she do to deserve that? He said why would she come to his house this morning, and that he told her anytime he sees him with another girl, she should respect herself and not come around, or display any drama. Why would she come to my house? He asked Angrily.

There was silence for a moment, then I asked the young lady, is he your boyfriend? She said yes, with tears dropping from her eyes. Broken lips and swollen face, she looked at me, with her eyes calling for help. I told Ada lets to go, I took the girl by the hand and we left the scene. As we walked, the girl’s hand was shaking like someone who has spent 5 hours under snow. I felt pity for her. I can feel her so tensed, so afraid.

But what I don't seem to understand, is why would such a beautiful girl, be with such a man who doesn't value or respect her. How can a man tell you whenever you see him cheating, that you should do nothing? And you still call that man your boyfriend? I don't understand, is relationship about pain and disrespect? As we walked down the walkway to our class, looking for where to sit down and talk.

The girl fell and started crying, I stooped and told her, stand up let's go where we can talk, don't worry, everything will be fine. Don't be afraid, I'm with you. She looked at me, took a deep breath, closed her eyes, and nodded, we walked a few more minutes before we finally saw where to seat. And we sat. I asked her, why are you with this man? Why do you seem to be so into him? She couldn't look at me, at this point, tears wouldn't let her talk, she held my hand so strongly and passionately.

I have this guy my all, that house he is living in, I paid for it and then he looked at me and said I shouldn't question his actions. How? As she walked, she started snubbing and crying again. I crossed my hand around her neck, robbing her hand up and down her back. She continued, after committing 3 abortions for him, it's now known, I'm no longer good enough for him. He chases everything in a skirt. I'm tired but don't know how to leave. He is the only man I have truly loved. I tried to leave several times, but couldn't. I'm too weak to leave. What should I do?

Ada asked her what her friends, do they know about this, and she said she doesn't have friends. The only friend she had died in a car accident last two years, she then she has been by herself. That this guy is the only friend she has. Ada said, no wonder you find it difficult to leave, you are lonely, alone. But don't worry, from today you are our friend. No guy has the right to treat you the way this guy treats you. You deserve better. Don't worry, everything will be fine. A relationship should be fun, joyful and respectful not painful and disrespectful. Someone who loves you won't intentionally give you pain, or disrespect you. That guy doesn't love you. There is a message in the way people treat you, if only you listen, you will hear it but that's that. Today, you have found new friends who will help you to rise again, and find true love. Come with us, let's go lecture when we did we would go home together.

That was how she became our friend for over 3years and still counting. Today we are still very close, and now she is engaged and about to get married.