''Say It As It Is"

I’ll be lying if I said this topic is something that I fancied at first glance. The thing is, we all in one way or the other have unspoken rules that we live by in this world and most of the time we never deviate from it. At times people don’t tend to really think about it when they ask them cause they end up thinking it’s of little importance or should I say holds no substantial value?

For sometime now I think it’s have just lived life as it comes. I remember a few weeks ago someone asked me what I will do after I finished my National service. I replied him by saying I will cross that bridge when I get there and with all seriousness that was what u really meant. Yes, we are looking for opportunities everyday but right now it seems having something that you tend to wake up to everyday and look forward to doing takes much space in your head and you end up not doing or thinking about what is infront of you.

I’ve always lived by a code of saying things as it is. As time goes by I’ve come to realise that no matter how something is you need to say the truth. Yes, we do need to say the truth but then is the truth always the right thing to say? Yes, we tend to want to care about how someone will feel after what you have said to them. The thing is, a motto I’ve stood by always is “if I don’t like what someone does to me I will say it and be free”. Well, for most of us this is a lie.

Not that when someone does something to me and I don’t like it I won’t say it but then when something doesn’t really sit well with me that is when I really say it. I’ve come to understand myself in such a way that I only tend to reply to people when they do something to me which really pisses me off. But then does it mean that I have lied about my code of life then?

Nope, at the end of the day I think we are looking for inner peace. Yes, when someone does something to you and you think you can’t let go I am fully for telling them you don’t like it so it doesn’t repeat itself. Cause once that person has done it to you and you don’t mind it means he or she thinks it’s normal and he might do it again one day.

So yes, a code is always a code and even though some people will say they never go against it, I don’t think it’s totally true. I say this cause no matter what there will be a time that you’ll break or bend. Bending over a little bit at times is also good as sometimes we need to cause it’s a loved one. A loved one might say something to you and you don’t like but then your reply might end up hurting them more so we bend.