Hello friends of this community; One of the things we must learn for our personal growth is to realize that “no one cares what we do”, use that to your advantage, and if no one really cares what you do or don't do then why do you? It matters, why you care so much, why you think you are the center of the universe and that you are more important than others, Think about it.

You are an ordinary person like any other, everyone is in their own world worried about their things and their problems, most people are not even paying attention to what is happening around them, they simply continue with their lives whether working, eating , driving, walking; Both your life and mine are just as complex as anyone else's.

The funny thing is that many times we feel that everyone is watching us, it's not true!, that they are judging our every step and that paralyzes us, it makes us think too much before acting, for fear of the judgment of others, but the truth is that people are not so concerned with what we do.

This idea that we are the center of the universe is nothing more than a fantasy, a fantasy fueled by our insecurities, by our fears, especially those fears developed in adolescence, you know, at that stage when we lived with friends or classmates, well Every day we always gossip, we talked about other people's lives, but in adult life things are different, people are more busy with their own lives so much that they don't even have time to pay attention to everything you do or don't do. .

They may notice something about you for a few seconds or "Hey, you've dyed your hair" and after a while they'll forget about you, because then you'll be too busy with your own worries, think about this, when was the last time a classmate, Some friend of yours told you that he was going to change his career or that he was going to start a new business, and you stayed there thinking, if it was going to go well or badly, you probably dedicated a minute of your life to it and then you forgot about it, without That it would really affect each other's lives. person.

So why do you stop doing things just because you are afraid of what others might think, if you are lucky you will find some people who really care about your well-being, but what really matters is what you think about yourself and how You decide to live your life, your parents may worry about you, a little, but not as much as you think, because they also have their own life, because perhaps with the passage of time they need to focus on themselves since their task of raising you has already been accomplished.

In fact, I think it is very selfish to depend on parents for everything, even as an adult; Maybe your partner does care more about you because what you do directly affects him, after all they chose you as a life partner, but sometimes it seems that instead of being companions they become enemies not because they no longer support you. , they no longer provide you with the support you need and much less make an effort to make the relationship work, not even your best friends will be as attentive to you as you imagine.

They are also maturing, they also change course, they change path, things change and yes they will continue to be your friends and you know that you can count on them when a problem arises, but on a day-to-day basis everyone is busy with their own lives, no. It is like that and that is not bad, in fact, it can be very positive.

The truth is that the fact that others are not so worried about what you do is something incredibly liberating, it allows you to act more freely, without the social pressure that we imagine, when you realize that no one is judging your actions. You feel much more comfortable with the person you are and you can make decisions that really matter to you and that also helps you express yourself more authentically, you no longer have to filter your personality or your opinions just to please others.

What I have noticed is that most people spend a lot of time in places they don't like, with people who don't contribute anything just because they think that's what they should do, but when you stop worrying about that you start focusing on what you really want, you start going only to the places you like, to be only with the people you really enjoy.

It's not about becoming a hermit and stopping socializing, but about giving more value to your time and your life, surrounding yourself only with those who deserve it and make you feel good.