Emotional intelligence is about using your emotional states to your advantage, so that you can obtain results through those emotions. For example, one of my first jobs was in a cafeteria and I didn't like my boss at all, but because I She made negative comments about my work and that bothered me a lot, even if she made them to me to help me improve, so every time she made a comment to me I was filled with such a negative emotion, it made me much more anxious, much more even more nervous, more stressed and in the end make things worse.

I tell you this because it is that lack of emotional control that can hinder our progress in anything we do, therefore, emotional intelligence is important because it helps us understand our emotions, control the reactions we have to certain situations and also understanding the emotions of others, which is essential for successful relationships to make rational decisions, rather than impulsive decisions, which can then benefit us in managing stress and anxiety as well.

Emotional intelligence for me is the key to having a satisfying and balanced personal and professional life, so first think about what emotion you want to feel and why; Each emotion gives you certain benefits, for example, when you are angry you feel much more energy to act, when you are grateful you see your life in a much more positive way, it is not like that, each emotion helps you do different things, important things in a different way. easier.

Before I thought that I couldn't control my emotions, but after studying and practicing, I realized that we can choose what emotions to feel and when to stop feeling them, for example, how many times have you felt sad? This month how many?; Sadness is a feeling that takes a lot of energy from us, but to feel that way, we must have gone through or acted in a certain way to reach that state.

So if you identify what that state is, what that feeling is that you have gone through and you get to it, you are already one step ahead, think about this, someone who feels sad does so through their thoughts, the things they imagine. , from the things you see, from the things you say to yourself and also obviously manifested by the body, you can feel extreme sadness or anguish while you scream, while you run; while you smile, not because there is no coherence.

Your body and your neural mechanisms tell you the following: if you are sad, you should close your body, you should hunch your shoulders, have a closed facial expression, breathe shallowly, and along with those movements, negative things come to your head, things from your past, injustices that you have experienced, then it is at that moment that you access the feeling of sadness and in that state you do not experience any type of action.

Notice one thing, if you change the way you act you also change how you feel, for example, if something bad has happened in your life at work or with the people around you, it doesn't matter instead of feeling bad When you walk into your car to go home, do something different, straighten your back, breathe deeply, change the music on the radio, all of this will make your mind and body understand that you are trying to feel better.

So when you change your posture and your breathing in this way, you force your body to give you new sensations immediately and this can make you feel much happier, much more determined, with a better attitude, simply because you have changed your way of thinking. and above all your way of moving, of acting.

And for you to try it, do an exercise now, breathe differently, adopt a different posture for at least 30 seconds, one minute you will see that you will feel very different because your body is used to a power posture bringing new positive sensations, I am not saying that you should act like another person as someone you are not, but it is about consciously deciding what emotion you want to feel and using a strategy to leave behind The Sadness, of a situation, of an encounter, of a fall, from work before arriving home.

So we can do it in the car by changing the way we breathe, we can close our eyes, we can think about a time when we felt loved or when we gave love, some nice feeling, listen to a song that makes us feel good ( that is scientifically proven) and so you will see that you will feel an emotion and you will have the resources to be more affectionate at home and with your loved ones.