You are one of those people who says I don't know what to do in big and small decisions, it is very difficult for you to commit to a decision, whether in your professional life, studies, love relationships, work, you are one of those people who don't know what they want to do with their life. , I understand you, I know that this generates a lot of anxiety and frustration, because in the end, indecisive people analyze all the possibilities and it takes us a long time to commit to a decision and you can imagine that there can also be a lot of difficulty in managing our own emotions.

As life requires us to move forward and make decisions, we get frustrated, so reflect on how your indecision is affecting your emotions and what problems it is causing, I had to do this self-introspection to realize how much decision making is a skill. that we need to develop especially in adult life, so that we can feel that our life is moving forward.

The idea of this publication not only comes from my own experience, but also from what I see and what I talk to people around me and see the difficulty they have in making decisions, in particular I like to talk a little about myself and some They will say that it is because I am a Gemini, but I have been a person with great difficulty making decisions.

I am quite a perfectionist, perfectionism and rigidity can also make us have difficulty making decisions, however, I also consider that this has its advantages, since very perfectionist and demanding people sometimes manage to make the best decisions, this is a fact , but at the same time wasting time analyzing many options is something I don't like, especially because of the freedom and loss of time that it entails.

For example, if I'm going to change computers, I do a lot of research, I spend days researching, looking at all the options there are, the pros, the cons and sometimes I get really frustrated, as if we feel pressured to find the perfect option, but you've already asked what happens if you apply this same level of rigidity, demand, and judgment in all the decisions in your life and this can become a big problem.

So it is important to think if this difficulty is something general or is it specific, in some specific area, if it is something general it can indicate some deeper problem even from childhood, the way you were raised, because people who did not have much autonomy to make decisions . . since their childhood, that they were overprotected by their parents, that their parents always made decisions for them.

This implies that they may find it even more difficult to make decisions in adult life, this can lead to being very dependent on other people to make the decision for you, I have had the experience of people who wanted me to make the decisions for them, as if They had to end a relationship or not, so a person would sometimes spend an entire year undecided about ending a relationship that he knew was not going to work, but it was so difficult for him to decide, that he preferred to delegate that decision to others.

Have you ever done this, have you wanted your mother or a friend to make an important decision for you? Of course, when the anxiety of deciding is so great, we prefer that someone else do it for us, but we must think that no one else is going to assume the responsibility. consequences of the decisions in your life except you or in the case of the other person we can advise, but never make them make a decision because we have told them so.

I think that there are things that we cannot delegate and making decisions in your life is one of them, it is a sign of maturity, so you need to start assuming that responsibility and face this process, no one can make the decisions by yourself, this can even be Undermining your self-confidence and self-esteem.

You may have noticed that as we grow and enter adulthood we begin to have to make more important decisions and this is a very necessary process to develop a sense of self-efficacy and strengthen our self-esteem, serious decisions such as what I like. , what do I want to do with my professional life, this is one of the first decisions, big decisions I would say that we can make and yes you can seek help you can ask your parents, you can get professional guidance but ultimately you will have to make that decision yourself .

Reading books expands your mind a lot, they will give you new perspectives, new ideas, they confirm things for you, decisions will come that will determine your path.

If you find yourself trapped in a decision of this type, for example, in a relationship that you know is not suitable, but you cannot decide whether to end it or not, then you postpone that decision and in the end you end up building a life that you did not want, a life in which you are not happy or maybe let's say you are in a career that you don't like, in a job that you don't enjoy or you haven't even started your career because you don't know what to do so you don't do anything or study or work you don't do anything because you don't know what to do.

What you are doing is letting time pass by not making a decision and that can lead you to a life that you are not proud of, have you heard that "not making a decision is also making a decision", the lack of decision is also a decision that takes you to a place you may not like, what I'm saying makes sense, you need to stop and look at your life today.