Hello friends of this community, when there are situations that are frequently repeated, such as, for example, being in a relationship with a nice person and then doing something that ruins everything or in the jobs in which you enter, and have potential, you dedicate yourself , but you do something that affects your performance and you end up leaving that job.

When there are these types of repetitive situations we can suspect that perhaps there is some type of self-sabotage in process, when we talk about self-sabotage, sabotaging ourselves, beliefs that are often unconscious become conscious as we get to know ourselves, to As we do therapy, as we develop, we begin to discover that we have certain limiting beliefs about ourselves, but as long as we do not know about them and we do not know how they affect us, they will be there hindering our life and we cannot change them because we do not even know. that exist.

A clear example is when you have a healthy relationship, you want to love and be loved or be loved, but you have a belief that you are not loved or loved, that people do not love you, that you are not interesting and that you will always be rejected or that all men are equal, that all women are equal, and they will always deceive you, and that mental state gets in your way, this belief that, as I say, many times we do not realize that we have it, because it is in our subconscious, It begins to affect the way you think, the way you feel, and the way you act.

If you have this belief you will end up thinking about it a lot, distrusting a lot, feeling a lot of insecurity, a lot of jealousy, you will end up acting in such a way that will lead to the result that the relationship does not prosper, that it does not progress and that you end up breaking up with the other person, that is say, that your behaviors will cause the other person to break up with you, while on the one hand you really wanted to have a healthy relationship, on the other you had a belief that made you act against your goals, perhaps you have already been through this, true and such. Maybe you haven't realized that that's where the problem is.

Then you start to feed that thought of “I can never make it work with anyone”, “I can't connect with someone again”, you have a belief that every relationship must always have that passion, that fire, you need to have an insatiable attraction for person and this can also be a type of belief that can sabotage you, in the sense that you cannot bond with someone who is nice and who has the same goals as you, simply because there is not that passionate attraction that you would like to have.

So they are beliefs that interfere with our decision-making and action process and end up sabotaging the process.

Another example, that you have the goal of being a recognized and successful professional, but you have a belief of inability, you believe that you are not capable and that you do not deserve to be successful, that you do not deserve to earn money; Sometimes you can have the belief that money is even something bad, it's not like that, my favorite book, and I say my favorite book because it was the one that changed my chip, the one that changed the way I see money, my mentality and the scarcity and limitations in my life, is that of “the secrets of the millionaire mind.”

This book may sound a little bad, but the truth is that it is a very good book, which talks about the beliefs we have about money and how financially prosperous and millionaire people have a set of beliefs about money that facilitate your financial prosperity, we want to be leaders in everything we do and by leaders I mean mastering ourselves to the point of creating a life more aligned with who we are, with our true essence in order to feel more satisfied, more fulfilled, more at peace with our decisions.

There is no point in doing what everyone else does because it works, if at the end of the day you do not feel satisfied with your life, if at the end of the day you feel unhappy, if at the end of the day you are putting your mental health at risk, then A real issue is that what you think, you attract, what you can imagine, you can create, so your beliefs effectively affect your behavior, if you believe that you are not capable, that you are not good or good enough, that will also influence your behavior.