¿PARA QUE SIRVE EL JUICIO, EN LAS RELACIONES? / WHAT IS THE USE OF JUDGMENT IN RELATIONSHIPS?

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WHAT IS JUDGMENT FOR, IN RELATIONSHIPS?

Hi folks @holos. how's that week of good wellness practices going? To give even more meaning to life. Today I propose you one more way to improve the quality of life. Remember that in recurrence lies success, because the body learns, the mind does too.

Now I am going to ask you to make a move: Take a pencil and a piece of paper and go to a private place, sit down and relax. Write down the first thing that comes to your mind about the times you have judged someone. Have you got it yet?

I want to tell you what came to me. Memories came to me and I think we have all been there, so I think it is easier, when you see yourself judging, to discard the ways of relating and make the practice of forgiving and forgiving yourself.

WE ARE ALL INNOCENT

Even a criminal is innocent, from the depths of this statement, I can say that history does not justify the action, but it does make us understand. What I mean by this is that behind an action there is always a story whose evidence is the way it is handled. For example, to continue with the offender: When an offender does what he does. Ask yourself: How was his life history, how did he grow up, who were his parents, how did they relate to each other at home, observe his origin. Surely he will jump over the ways in which he learned to do things. And that's why he doesn't know how to do it differently.

With this look you will realize that the changes are only voluntary and even more, you will see that it is not possible to change the way of doing and being of another person, because he does not know the script if not of his life, of his learning, of his history. He cannot know the way you want him to handle himself. For the space of obviousness does not exist. What is obvious to me may not be obvious to you. Because of the different ways of looking.

JUDGMENT SERVES TO PUSH AWAY.

It turns out that when I found myself judging, I realized two things: the first of my innocence and that of the other person and the second of how an energy of mutual distancing is handled. This means: in the first one, there is what was expressed above, realizing that at some point I can be in the other person's place, not necessarily in the same situation, but it is the same feeling of judgment. And in the other occasion, it is a repellent of both parts, it is an atmosphere of conflict and dislike, without reciprocal tolerance.

I will be illustrative: In the first occasion, I was very judgmental of the other person because he was always looking for ways for others to do everything for him, to the point of understanding his depression when he found out that not everything could be done for him. That same depression did not allow him to see the impediment to his vitality, for example, that he would not move unless he was given a tail.

In the second example. I was also saved by my innocence, because I did not know that I was judged for something I did not do, like picking up the garbage or used utensils, in the place where I did an activity (I found out after 6 years hahaha: bless my inner child and her immaculate innocence), I did it, but not as she wanted me to do it and I did it according to my possibilities, for me it was always right (this is what I mean with the space of obviousness), but for her it was not right. That even made my classmate treat me aggressively, even taking advantage of the activity she was angry and I came to find out 6 years later, because she told me about it, returning to resume her way of doing, there I knew the reason for her estrangement, which I understood was also mine with her, but I did not understand that energy of estrangement, we both judged each other.

DO YOU FILL YOURSELF WITH JUDGMENTS?

Therefore and by way of colophon, today I smile, when I see something that makes me uncomfortable, I realize that it is in- volution and the energy of conflict becomes on the one hand an attack of mental conflict that is felt, it can become a verbal or even physical aggression.

When we judge we attack, we have discord, at work, at home, in the couple, in the family, in the community. This vibration does not take long to generate unpleasant situations in the environment, contaminating the relationship and the good vibes of others and our own. Judgment is limiting. Judging can result in honoring the ego. Judgment has a magnet of attraction, what we criticize we attract. But it is also human to feel it, the issue is to recognize it, pick up the glasses and see the ways in which we can stop repeating that behavior.