Cuando la tecnología nos desdibuja / When technology blurs us

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WAITING FOR ME TO FINISH CHECKING THE PHONE

I want to talk to you about how technology distances us, blurs us, makes us hostile to the context.
Some time I have observed how people walk around pulling each other with a cell phone in their hand, or share a meal with you, but they attend to their phone and can spend hours checking the phone and in something so sacred that is eating together becomes the absence of everyone because they are attending to their cell phone. Has it happened to you?

A phone is a magazine, for these times, there are different ways to interact and the subject matter is so diverse that everything interests us and serves us especially because it is mathematically controlled consultation and microphones (algorithms). This way of serving the mobile so efficient has for some a macabre objective, if we review it deeply, economic gain wherever we see it. The attraction is so novel that we can stay glued for hours, without realizing it, especially if you are not aware of the size of the distraction that this magazine provides and on the other hand we stop paying attention to those who accompany us, we even stop collaborating with the other, imbued by the attractions of technology.

CEASING TO BE PRESENT

It is possible that this can become an uncomfortable conversation, but sometimes I think it must happen because absence is always something that takes us away from the relationship, whatever it is, I say this because one of my phrases is love is attention and time. And I am talking about all forms of love, when we dedicate attention and time to someone it is a way of making presence of their importance in our lives and the significant enjoyment of their direct presence in that instant, in that hour in that place.

But when this is severely influenced by the priority of the use of the telephone, I believe that we must establish limits and remind ourselves to be present, to look at each other, to pay attention to each other, to feel that we are assisted and to assist the other, with the look, with the contact, with the gestures that are also ways of expressing ourselves humanely and appreciatively.

GOING ON A TECHNOLOGY DIET

That is why I am becoming an activist of going on a technology diet. For in view of the fact that these ways of communicating, in absentia, are becoming more and more common. This also suggests putting it as an agreement in a conversation that will surely be branded as out of place, because we are also making it normal to make it a priority to attend and let ourselves be left with the attractions of social networks.

It is then a matter of putting away the computer at certain times and when we are in the presence of someone to establish full attention to the other. This would make us rescue the presence as an important respect in the relationship.

GENERATING QUALITY TIME

In this sense, I believe that committing not to look at the phone when we are eating or talking to someone, I propose to be a rescued habit.

I also propose to generate those uncomfortable conversations to be able to ask the other person to join the activity we are doing in order to finish together and quickly: I am going to leave here some ways to start the conversation:

Starting an awkward conversation is always the only way to make it happen. So start like this:

I'd like to talk to you about using the phone when we're together, can we talk about that please I need to? 

I know it's awkward to talk about this, but, I find it necessary.

I want to take the opportunity to talk about this with you.

And so we will take care of making conversations with agreements that will make us have lasting relationships entering into the laboratory of life and its experiments of experiences.

Greetings dear ones, see you soon. Tell me what other plan works to have quality time and that technology does not steal our presence and the shared moment.