¿COMO SERÍA ESTABLECER ACUERDOS? /HOW WOULD IT BE TO ESTABLISH AGREEMENTS

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HOW WOULD IT BE TO ESTABLISH AGREEMENTS?

Good evening dear @holos-lotus, how is life with those who accompany us, with any possible relationship, couple, work, money, family, community. Let's focus on the one with the couple, because, although it is possible with the rest, it will come by resonance if we approach ourselves first. Let's make this possibility biological, let's do things that become our habits, that we make available, our thoughts, our body, our language and our emotions so that everything responds to us, corresponds to us.

I tell you that I am in a struggle between the ease of life and the habit of believing the difficulty, as a possibility, because of the effort, the work, the suffering that we believe. But you know what? Life is easy, the complication is put by us with our thoughts.

GOOD NIGHT MY DEAR HOLOS. HERE IS YOUR 1+1=TOGETHER.

By the way, my holos are you, who read me.

THREATENING THOUGHTS

When I say a struggle between ease, I tell you that I have been looking at difficulties in my relationships, when in reality there are none and that is why I believe that the time has come to establish agreements without intensities or with intensities, it does not matter, no one can take away what is.

We do not desire suffering, but we believe that it exists and very deeply we can even feel pleasure from it, because it is learned. Let us stop avoiding happiness. Bliss is not painful, not threatening and much less dangerous.

Let's take care of asking for what we want to receive, and as it is possible that we are confused about what we want; let's concentrate on what we want without negotiating pain with happiness or joy. Let's make an exchange of fear for love.

I WANT CONTAINMENT

Well, that's what making agreements is all about. I particularly think that making agreements is not something that has to be ceremonial, but you do have to make the statement and the statement is saying what do I want to happen, what makes me happy, what do I think might cause me pain, or threat and what do I want life together to be like.

A hug is containment, a supportive look is containment, a caress is containment, a word of encouragement is containment and that is what I want to appear, in those moments when I lack a floor, a support structure and those moments are when I am on the lookout for fearful thoughts and when I feel that there is nothing for me.

How much ego there is in that doubt, as if the thoughts can not only affect me. Being in this feeling of overwhelm is the furthest thing from freedom from fear. The approach to love leads us to the certainty that we are safe, because it turns out that we can also ask for what we want, with or without fear, but leave at the disposal of life a happy thought of love. A request for love is also containment.

I WISH FOR TOKENS OF AFFECTION

We are not used to pampering and that makes us believe that we are not worthy of such tokens. And besides that is not done in public, only in secret is when we see the display. The demonstrations of affection can be so biological that we can get used to give them but we have to practice them, starting with caressing ourselves.

Since when don't you touch your face:
Do it ... Feel your own presence, feel life in your hands, with subtlety, with your fingertips.

How would it be to ask for demonstrations of affection?

Many times saying I love you, touching hands, holding hands with the other, giving or receiving a kiss is not allowed because affection affects the culture, there are those who believe that there is fragility. Let's stop betraying ourselves and let's say how we want it to be, let's start with ourselves and invite those who accompany us.

I WISH FOR PRIORITY

Priority in going through the door, priority in sitting at the table and waiting for me, priority in getting in the car. Priority in attentions, priority is not dependence, but priority with freedom. I want to feel loved and that happens for example when you accompany me to do the shopping, to do chores together, to receive details.

How do you feel that you are a priority?

And if all this happens to you give the merits to the one who propitiates it, to yourself and to the other. Because recognition is qualification and there is nothing more affective than qualification.