WOOING PHOBIA COUPLED WITH A DISAPPOINTING RESPONSE…
I spent almost the whole day at home yesterday trying to enjoy my weekend the very best way possible, i decided to stay home all day to watch the latest Yoruba nollywood blockbuster movie titled ** LÍSÀBÍ, I finished this movie in the morning and was feeling really good about it because it’s literally the best movie I’ve seen after Jagunjagun, another blockbuster movie that was produced months ago…
I finished this particular movie and was trying to get some things done before heading out to hunt for food. I was about wearing my clothes when i heard a knock on my door, as expected i asked who it was and upon response I realized it was my young friend…
I dropped my clothes and went straight to him at the door to exchange pleasantries with him, we talked as we both walk out the backyard where the main reason for his visitation would be discussed…
We got to the yard and he was like ”Bro, i need your help with something important and i don’t know if you’d be able to help me”. I am a bit older than him so he comes to me whenever he is having some challenges, he calls me “Bro” and asks for my opinion whenever he is confused…
I told him to go ahead and will try my best to help him if it’s something i can help him with. He then felt comfortable and was ready to talk, i on the hand was trying to guess what he needed my help with, i was contemplating if it’s monetary aspect or not, but then i was ready to hear him out…
He told me there is a particular girl who has been coming to his shop for a while now, she is pretty, cool, silent and friendly. She has been coming to his shop to his boss’s shop to get her Dad’s clothes since her dad is their very good customer…
I already knew where he was going to but then i was waiting for him to finish before disappointing him 😂. He went on and on until he eventually found the finish line. The help he needed from me was ”to give him tips on how to walk up to the lady, talk to her and probably ask her out after getting to know her better”…
MY DISAPPOINTING RESPONSE…
I sighed deeply after finally figuring out where my help is needed and also knowing that my response would disappoint him. The first thing i said to him that immediately broke his heart was that ”I have never walked up to any lady in my life with the aim of wooing her, not to talk more of exchanging contacts with her”…, i have never done it before and I don’t think i will ever do it because of my principles and moral standards…
All the ladies I’ve walked up to in my life are either my friends, the friend of my friends or the ones that looks like my female friends, but the ones i like upon sight and wish to have their contact with the intention of asking them out, I have never walked up to them…
REASON WHY…
Over the years I’ve seen how guys get insulted and treated like nothing whenever they walk up to any lady in the street with the intention of asking for her contact, probably because they like her and would love to know her better…
I have only seen it happen in movies where guys get insulted for publicly wooing a lady, the day i saw it happen in reality, I caught a phobia. I was quite a young high schooler when I first witnessed a guy getting insulted for publicly wooing a lady. It was at that point I disliked that means of asking a lady out or wooing her…
It’s been years and I still haven’t gotten over that phobia yet, at this point in time I’m starting to think it’s no longer my phobia anymore, this is just me trying to maintain my moral standard and principles as a guy…
I get angry easily, if by chance i see you in my street and with sense and maturity I walk up to you and approached you like a gentleman with the intention of talking to you, probably to exchange contact and you wash me down with insults, i am not going to walk away without making that lady look like a joke and a fool. I know myself and that is why I always try not to use that means, which means i have a better method i use in doing my thing…
In summary, till today I have never done it and i don’t think i will lol, i have my means…
In conclusion, I told my friend i haven’t done it before and that I have no experience in it, i am sure he doesn’t believe me since he knows i have lots of beautiful females as friends 😂, but then he can try to become friends with her to know if she is single or taken, this way he won’t be wasting his precious time on a lady who has been taken 😂…
THANKS FOR READING…
So, how do you then approach ladies you like??🌚
And i don't think it's a phobia worth having. I think most of this stuff boils down to steeze, composure, and not using razz pickup lines😂😂 and also bidding your time wisely. When doing this, your chances tips the scales higher.
Ahahaha, the truth is that I always know a friend that knows a friend that knows the lady lol, or if it's bound to happen you and I might end up having a conversation on something in an unexpected situation lol...
I am always lucky in that aspect though, but now I think i can do it better cox i have my ways and that is coming of as a friend but with a greater intention 😂...
I see.😂
Lucky guy.
All these guys that used to have deeper intentions, hmm..😏
Anyway, advice your guy to be patient and bid his time wisely. If she has been noticing him around the shop, maybe the feeling is mutual and she also wants to know him?? Anyway, with women, patience is key.🌚
Lol, normal…
Social media makes mine easier lol…
Normal now, i won’t approach you with all my cards faced up lol. Let’s be friends and if i have a chance i shoot my shot lol…
I will relay this to him lol 😂
But now I know my ways and my means 😂😆😆😆…
Mr Ways and means 😂😂😂😂
I really hope your friend gets a positive response though. Keeping my fingers crossed.🤞
Ahahah okay 👍
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As a woman, I was already starting to get creeped out by your lines, until I got to the last paragraph. The truth is that every relationship should start as a friendship, because without that you won't get very far as time goes on.
Ahahaha, I shocked you lol, sorry about that mam, exactly every relationship should start as friendship, it should be the bed rock of every relationship, thanks for stopping by mam
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It is well o, Sir. God will help us all.😄
Ish, amen oh lol
Well we all have phobias. I have a friend who told me that he would only date within his circle. Which means friends of friends or his direct friend. With good reason. Sadly, not all women have sense and not all understand common courtesy. It’s either “yes or no” as simple. That’s what my mom taught me. Never insult any man who requests your attention m. Either you choose to give or not to give.
So yeah, your phobia is standard.
Omo, that’s my gurl, you have really learnt well, this is just it my dear, if all the women out there can inculcate sth like this, the world would be a better place lol…
Thanks dear