THE TRUTH IS OUT, WHAT NEXT???…

Over the years i have seen lots of Hollywood movies and other genres of movies that has influenced my thought process a couple of times, especially when those movies are pointing towards different events that can actually happen in the real world…

An example of such event is a case ”where an infant gets adopted as a baby, while growing up in that same family, he never for once imagined himself to be an adopted child because the truth was never revealed to him by his so called biological parents, they loved him like their own and that was because they wanted him to grow up feeling like one of them and not see himself as a black sheep of the family, that way he would be able to relate more with his siblings and care for them, the truth suddenly came to light on his 20th birthday when he found his adoption papers by accident, he confronted his parents and that made his parents decide to talk about the circumstances surrounding his adoption”…

It took him twenty years to know he was adopted, and that was because they didn’t give him the room to doubt their existence as his biological parents, if he didn’t find the adoption papers by mistake, I’m sure he wouldn’t have found out the truth anytime soon or he might never even know he was adopted at all, that is what it means to love a child you didn’t carry in your womb for 9 months but then nurtured him as your own for 20 years…

I can go on and on about different Hollywood shows and movies in which such event has happened in. whenever I watch movies or shows like this, I’m always forced to put myself in that same position, this way I would be able to judge that situation without being biased…

I need to be the adopted child who found out he was adopted a decade ago to know what to do after that discovery…

This will be the second time i will be answering this question in form of a written post, i will have to consider a lot of factors before taking the next step in such case…

THE TRUTH IS OUT, WHAT NEXT???…

Using my parents, siblings, and myself as a practical example in this topic, if i were to find out one day that i am
an adopted child and my siblings are my parents only biological kids, which makes me the only adopted child, what will i do??…

The only reaction i will have to this news is the feeling of SURPRISE coupled with shock of how well they hid the truth from me. The truth is that nothing will change even after such revelation, and this is because they never made me felt unloved and different, they treated me like their own all my life, there was equality throughout…

Growing up in such a family and one day you found out you were adopted won’t change anything. Though i will feel confused, shocked, surprised and might not even believe what i see or hear at that moment, but then again i have all the evidences right before my eye’s saying otherwise…

If i were to consider everything my parents have gone through in life to make me who i am today, I might not even believe what I see. That is because they treated and brought me up with love and my siblings never once threw my identity at my face…

It is my right to be angry at them for hiding the truth from me, but then my anger would only last a while, after calming down the next thing to do is to question them. I would have over a thousand and one questions after such discovery…

Forgiving them after they’ve revealed the circumstances behind my adoption is the simplest thing I would do, it would be easier because I know deep down they truly loved and care for me like their own. I am neither a baby nor am i a kid, so I won’t throw tantrums like a 12 years old boy…

It would have been a different reaction and a whole level of anger if they had treated me badly since they adopted me, I might never forgive them in that situation, I might even leave home after such discovery, I might even wanna find my biological parents in such circumstances but if it’s otherwise, i will ask them questions about my background…

In summary, as an adult it’s best to handle that situation with all form of maturity, look at the factors and everything they have done for you since they adopted you. If it wasn’t a good job you would know what to do next and if it was indeed a great job, you will also know how to handle it well…

In conclusion, I won’t bother asking about the whereabouts of my biological parents if all they have ever done is loved me unconditionally, asking about their whereabouts would be a distraction to my thoughts. Let the truth be buried and forgotten, we move on and live happily ever after as one family, the end…

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