THE QUALITIES I SEEK FOR IN A FRIEND....

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When i hear the word friend, I get a lot of mixed feelings because i have had several encounters with different people who called themselves my friend and I also have a thousand and one memories with friends but about 60 percent of those whom i called and considered friends with all my heart were nothing more the friends of the mouth and material things, my last encounter with a particular friend was something that left me broken and shattered deep within...

I know you all might be wondering what must have transpired between two people who call themselves friends that left them torn apart, well it was a shocking revelation to me too but as a friend, talking it out was the best option but on the long run i realized he was just a materialistic friend and he wasn't sincere right from onset and we decided to break things off...

There is one straight fact about me when I get committed to any relationship, it could be friendship or a relationship between couples, I don't hesitate to give my all in all for the betterment of that relationship...

I am someone who would go extra miles to keep my friends happy, I can sacrifice my favorite thing just to make my friend happy but everything changed the day I started encountering materialistic friends, I know I am not a saint neither am I perfect but with the little i have I make sure I contribute it to the bond of friendship but what did I get in return??? I got betrayal and broken trust...

We get wiser the more we meet and experience new things and thanks to the encounters and heartbreaks, I have come to understand some things about relationships most especially friendship and now I think I have gotten to a stage in my life where no friend can manipulate or cajole me into doing something that is against my ethics, I think I am strong enough to be on my own without intimate friendship...

The fact is that life is best enjoyed when you are in the company of trustworthy friends or people, being with them makes you happy and their slightest absence in your life makes you a loner, this is what you feel when you have a trustworthy and reliable friends close to you at all times...

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Thanks to my previous experiences and encounters with friends, I am now very careful than ever before when it comes to selection of friend...

I have some set standards and qualities I look for in people before I can accept them as my friend and slowly they can be my best friend...

The fact is that there are some qualities I look for in people to know if they will be a good influence on me or bad for me and that is what I am going to talk about in the below paragraphs;

             THE QUALITIES I SEEK FOR IN A FRIEND...

Well I am not that much of a hard person to deal with but because we are humans and we are prone to mistakes, I will say it might be hard to deal with someone with different personality and tolerating them might be hard but we just need to put up with it until we get to know them better...

The qualities I seek for in a friend are;

• HONESTY
• TRUST
• ENDURANCE
• RESPECT
• COMMITMENT
• CONTENTMENT
• SACRIFICE
• COURAGEOUS
• LOVE
• UNDERSTANDING...

I don't know if all these qualities are too much to seek for in a friend but for me I think these are the qualities I seek for in a friend and I will be willing and able to reciprocate the same thing in such relationship...

In terms of honesty, a good friend must be willing and able to come clean when he or she has done something wrong because speaking out is the very first step to settle the issue and then asking for forgiveness and then everything will be okay, having a liar as a friend can be very frustrating especially when every lie made by the person is very obvious and transparent, it just gets irritating to have someone lie to your face without thinking twice when you know the truth of the matter....

We should be able to trust a friend with out deepest secret but in this present generation there is nothing like trust between friends especially when you have a friend that has a loose mouth and for every penny he or she will spill out such secret, a good friend should be sure to keep anything called a secret and from there the bond of trust keeps on getting stronger to last a lifetime...

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Endurance, respect and commitment is a necessary quality that must be present in a friend, a good friend will be with one through tick and thin because when it was sweet you were together but when it gets a bit bitter you run before you are been chased which is very wrong, there should be a line for respect amongst friends especially to a certain level, commitment is the key to every relationship, we need to be able to give our all in all to every relationship because it is necessary for bonding and growth...

Contentment, sacrifice, courage, love and understanding is a key factor to a successful friendship, we should have someone who will be there to hold us in our weakest days, we should have someone who will be there to tell us all will be fine, having someone who is willing to sacrifice his or her need for your sake is one of the best feeling and most importantly loving one another is a very important and not being too self centred and there should be understanding at all times because that will help to keep the love alive at all times, a good friend will be willing and able to share the little he or she has with friends and with love and happiness they will eat and be contented...

In conclusion, if you have a friend that possesses these listed above qualities please hold them dearly because they are once in a life time friends and they hardly come by...

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