Maturity and Understanding Between Kids And Their Parents.

One would have to consider the nature of being a parent and that of a child before picking a side if parents should let their children know about their struggles or not..... Quite hard to pick one because of some factors.

My parents were a bit secretive about what ever was going on in the house and even with them, they had their way of dealing with it without making it look like a problem to us. Being introvert raised by introverts really helped the matter in days of little, we couldn't express ourselves enough the way other children would if their parents could not provide what they want. I remember the few times I was sent home because I couldn't pay up my school fee in primary school or secondary school, I just walk home and tell my mom why I was sent home. She would become sad while I would just find something to do to avoid worrying and other times I would sit by her side to start a discussion or help with whatever she was doing. I won't ask again about the school fee until either if my parents give it to me.

I and my siblings just have our way of knowing that these guys are rich or not, even when we were little because my parents will definitely get us what we want (we literally know the limits of what to ask😅😅) or they gift us without asking us. One other time when my dad had it rough was when he had to sell his red Honda bulldog car because my sister got admission and had to prepare ahead for the university expenses. I hated it,but he couldn't handle both (weekly car expenses and the series of payment in Uni). My mom was the one who told that he had sold the car. My sister got to school and never told our parents that she needed new clothes that fit the University, she managed what she had,bought the ones she could. She understood fully well what's going on without much being said.

So, whether parent should let their children know about their struggles or not depends on both sides.....

Firstly, parents that have good level of emotional intelligence, communication skill,good temperament and understands children might be able to know and or tell their children about some of their struggles. But secondly, if the kids are understanding and quick witted type then the parents should go ahead to tell the kids about some of their struggles but only to the degree which the kids age and maturity can handle. Another thing about kids is that they can say anything to anyone they trust asides their parent. My parents had to be sure that we could keep some informations to ourselves before they started to confide in us, it took my dad more time especially with me because I was playful so he used to think I would just spill out stuffs when I'm really into the play.

I don't think age alone can be a determinant of when parents should start letting their kids about their struggles. You would agree with me that there are certain youth and adult that their age didn't reflect their maturity or even level of reasoning. So, age is not entirely a determinant, other things to consider before letting the kids know about the struggles are level of understanding (comprehension), love, maturity of mind,etc.