When Saying Sorry Saves Relationships

Apology is such a great word that when the act is done, it brings peace and prevents any issue from getting worse. When something wrong is done to me, I expect an apology as that would mean the individual is remorseful, of course, if it is done with all honesty. They say a mistake isn't a mistake again once the same act is being repeated and so, saying sorry repeatedly is useless because it's seen that the person isn't ready to take to corrections or change.

Same as I love people to apologise wholeheartedly, I do the same too whenever I am at fault so that the problem would be resolved quickly instead of prolonging it which could ruin a relationship either with one's friends or partner. This is why I don't hesitate to apologise when need be, especially knowing that mistakes are inevitable and doing what needs to be done has shown how considerate you are and wanting to end any argument that may arise in the future.

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In many cases, I have found myself apologising and not to the same offence because I am someone who takes correction and is conscious so that it won't happen again. One has to also stay on their lane and not cross their boundaries when "I am sorry" has been sent out as it is seen as one who understands and considers other people.

There was a time I was sad in my room and all I wanted was to be alone and nurse my pain. I am a temperamental person, and to avoid transferring any aggression to another person, I try to be alone to calm myself for the time being, even at that moment, I wouldn't pick up my calls until my mind has settled and back to my normal self.

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I was indoors all through the day and at a time, I kept hearing a series of banging on my door of which I had shouted from inside to inform the person I was busy and did not need anyone around me. But my friend kept banging, insisting that I opened the door. At that moment, I was getting mad and the state I was in kept growing into something else. The constant banging on my door kept sending a frustrated signal to my brain. I couldn't take it anymore, so, I stood up, and opened the door angrily not knowing she was at the door and that knocked her off which affected her forehead too. I didn't notice that because my head was bowed to the ground while I told her not to disturb me again.

She left slowly while putting her hand on her forehead. As she turned, I closed my door and went back to the state I was in. At that point, my heart was beating faster and my conscience saying to me that I did the wrong thing. I couldn't concentrate on my thought but the thought that I did badly and needed to apologise kept coming. It was now a battle of two thoughts rummaging in my heart, one was still about my unhappy situation and the other was my conscience telling me to go and apologise. I never liked to offend or hurt anyone but this has happened.

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After some hours and knowing she would be in her room which was facing mine, I knocked at the door, whispered that I was the one. The next thing was for her to open up with her squeezed face. I knew she was angry at me and before she even said any word, I apologised and made her know why I was locked inside. She explained how she wanted to check up on me seeing how I hadn't come outside since and was worried. I kept apologising so she could know I meant it and that I never wanted anything to come between us.

What surprised me was how she said she wasn't angry at me because she already knew the kind of person I was and also, she understood my reaction earlier which to me, was an act of maturity which an ordinary person wouldn't think to that perspective.

Our relationship never got affected by it but kept going smoothly. I could see how understanding she was and also close to noticing my reaction whenever I was down and instead of getting mad at me or discontinuing the relationship, she acted maturely and that was something I cherish in her.

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