I took the step even though I was rejected!
...I felt rejected but life moves on. Really?
Seriously, I had to summon the courage to narrate this experience because I still found out that I am shy but someone might be learning from my experience. Don't you think? I will surely speak it out because it doesn't hurt nor would anyone bite me or even look at me weirdly! Hehehehe...
This happened two years ago and I felt the rejection which made my heart skipped, making me feel desperate, but am I? I had to take the bold step to express my feelings but it turned out to be a negative response, even though I love how he replied politely. How I wish he was mine because I admired his cuteness from afar. His beard was kind of a style I want in a man.
We met on a blogging platform and we became friends. Whenever I make a post, I would feel this adrenaline rush when I get notified that he had commented on my post. I always refresh my blog to see if he'd posted as I would want to be the first person to comment which he would reply asap too. Our friendship went on from there to WhatsApp and I would make sure I chat with him daily.
The more we chat, the more I got interested in him and the more the push to speak my mind and let him know my feelings. Feelings for a guy? How do you want to do it? Someone who is shy and cannot even lift her face to look at a guy! These was some of the thoughts disturbing my fragile mind 😢
After a few months, I decided to let him know about my feelings because I couldn't keep them to myself anymore. The more I bottled it in, the more restless I became and it feels as if I am wasting time on this stuff. But I just couldn't pick myself to do that.
On the night I wanted to speak out my feelings, I had told him earlier that I have something to say. He was like “Okay, I am all ears”. At that point, my heart skipped, and my mind was racing like being on the field taking a marathon race.
I made sure I did all chores that night and was on my bed. Even if I wanted to cry and feel sad, let me do that on my bed so that when I sleep and woke up the next day, no one will know, even my Aunt won't know what went wrong.
That was how I shared my feelings for this guy and I was waiting for a reply since he wasn't online. I closed my WhatsApp and rested for a while on my bed. I checked again, but still, there was no reply. He hasn't seen it because the mark icon hasn't turned blue. I kept waiting and expecting a reply.
A few minutes later, I heard a beep on my phone and when I checked it, it was a message from MTN. Mtchewww, I hissed and closed my phone back. Different thoughts were already giving way into my beautiful mind and I just couldn't wait for a reply as I was too eager to hear him speak.
...Then, the words came in.
I heard another beep and checked it, it was a message from him. I was rejected and I felt so bad. At least he replied and rejected politely as a gentleman would do. He complimented me first, then went ahead to introduce his girlfriend to me. He said he admits that I am beautiful and he wouldn't want to play games on me as he has a girlfriend whom he loves so much. He wished me well and I said Okay, thank you!
He seems so nice to give me such a reply but I did one thing for the first time. I spoke my mind and expressed my feelings to a guy which I never did before. Though I was rejected, the response from him cleared my sadness away completely and we became friends more.
That incident made me realize more that if you love someone, speak or say it out. Don't bottle your feelings inside your mind because you won't have peace. There are two answers to every request, it's either a yes or a no. If it's a no for you which means rejection, brace up and move on with your life. Life will always lead us to the best if we believe that.
Thanks for your time.
Sharing your feelings for a guy doesn't make you weak, sometimes, refusing to speak out when you love someone might make you miss out on a great opportunity. So glad you overcame the rejection.
Hahaha. Yes, you are right. We would definitely miss out on opportunities if we fail to express our feelings because sometimes, it might be a positive response but we need to take the step.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
Hmmmm sis that's a bold step o because some guys will definitely take you for granted because you are the first to say it
Even though it doesn't matter who said it first but seriously I would rather explode by keeping it inside of me than to tell a guy that I feel for him
You are such a brave and courageous lady
I no fit walai
Rejection is not the end of the world meanwhile it's a normal thing which must have happened to anyone in so many ways aside from relationship
😂😂😂 it was hard more than how I said it oo. I pushed myself and I am glad I did. Though, I can't do it again. Maybe because I never see fine guy 🤣🤣🤣
LoL 😂 those fine guy self too dey do shakara
A fine lady like you confess love to him and he's doing anyhow
Anyways I really love your courage sis
Hahahaha 😂😂 Some guys are like that. Because they are fine, they start doing shakara. No be their faults na 😅😅
I think the guy might have said yes if he was single, the rejection would have been worse if he deceived you and back out when you have gotten really deep with him
You are right. That would really be painful but I am glad he went politely in rejecting me. Lol
LoL 😂 no mind am your future husband will be very cute I believe that
He should oo 😅
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STOPYeaaa..... Moving forward, isn't it? Thank you for always encouraging me to do more. It's a strong push! 🤩🤩
You're welcome @princessbusayo! Have a nice day 😊👍🌹
Wow firstly I must commend your enough for being bold enough to approach a guy, shy or not , most ladies don't do that.
But the good thing about It is that, if you fail to say your mind, you might keep waiting for a message that will never come from him.
But luckily by asking, you get to realize he's in a relationship and also a great guy, who doesn't take advantage of your vulnerable situation to play games with your emotions.
Thanks for sharing this Masterpiece with us, I learnt a lot and I'm sure others will do the same.
Yes, some guys wouldn't mind and because of that, takes the lady for granted. Thank you, Vickoly
You're welcome dear, I wish you all the best.
Wow are you sure you're shy? 😂 Even me that thinks I'm not so shy, I couldn't say anything or maybe I just saw it as an impossible mission to embark sha.
It's a good lesson you shared out with your story dear, just say what your heart wants and get the rejection or acceptance to move on.
The guy is good person, a rare one... Some guys will just take you for granted because of that confession you made to him.
You're amazing dear 🥰❤️
You are right.... Dem go take advantage of that feelings and use the lady anyhow but he acted so responsibly then. Perhaps he know what women can do 😂😂😂😂 men shouldn't underestimate women's power oo especially when they want something 🤣🤣🤣
Haha as in ehn... Women matter can dey extra sometimes, he knows better 😂
Well, that's really cool of him
Yes 🥰
Meehn! You were so brave to let your feelings out to that cute guy😅
Many would rather swallow it all up.. Just like me wey dey always form Jayz Bon😂
I admire the fact that you were able to do that and even with the way you handled the reply he gave.. welldone dear✊
At least, he gave a polite reply which shows he respected me. That alone relieved me that day but as it is, life moves on 😂😂😊😊
Jayz bon indeed oo 😅
Yes my dear! I love your courage 😘
Hehehehe 😅
Let me start laughing on this one because MTN can be crazy 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sending unnecessary messages when someone is expectant 😂😂😂
Wow, princess dear...I must commend the courage you gathered to speak up.
..... like expressing your feelings over a guy isn't easy oo. Only few people can do this and yes, it's not a bad move atall
I only wished the cute guy wasn't in a relationship before you met him but then, it's fine. Good to hear that you guys are still friends anyway, is he also in hive?
Lolz 😆
😂😂😂😂 MTN no dey mind their business sometimes. I was expecting something so important to me, they are busy sending message 😅😅😅
I didn't know I could do that too because I am someone who doesn't like showing my expression or feelings to a guy but I saw someone so cute, I wanted to have him 😂😂 but rejection entered.
He registered on Hive but not functioning.
Lol...it's well my dear
Such is life
We move!!!!🚴🚴🚴🚴🚴
Yes ooo. We move 😅
I am moved by the courage you had to pour out your feelings, it is something females hardly do because of the fear of rejection.
At least you cleared your mind and I am glad the guy was matured enough to handle the feeling with care even though it was a NO.
Yes... That was all that matters then ... I cleared my mind and was at peace even with myself. Thanks, George.
Very correct. When you feel something, say it. You never know how it will turn out. It's better you come out with it and get rejected, than always blaming yourself for not speaking up when you had the chance.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
You are right. The worst feeling is you not speaking up when you had the chance because who knows? Something might turn out good but if it is bad, at least you did took a step.
Thanks so much, Bruno 😊
Nice one my sister and my mentor, you see I have learnt this right from my teenage years maybe because of the way I was brought up, or maybe because of the environment I find myself, you know that kind of feelings that you can't kill me, i will pour out my mind no matter what..., When I was growing up, I used love to listen to a particular track of a music by Africa China ft. Solly baba, the music goes thus '...if you love somebody walk up to her and tell am you love am he, because no crime at all....' you can search for it and download it and listen to it, so you have done the right thing I love your courage actually that is one thing I cherish in you, you don't hide your feelings no matter what. Kudos to you, just keep up the good work better days are coming 👍👍👍
Yes oo, I remembered that word that no one will kill me, I go talk my mind. So also, the song, it's an old and common song then and that is the truth about life. There is no crime in saying your feelings to another person.
Thank you for stopping by 🤗