Forming a friendship level.
While I was growing up, I never had many friends and I can't tell if the friendship between my childhood friend and me was initiated first by me or her. I am an introvert who hardly makes friends but I am always open to whoever comes into my life. This doesn't mean I allow everyone to come around me because I take my time to study the kind of person he or she is. I grew up to enjoy my privacy and never wanted many people around me. Even now, one would notice quickly how I get easily tired with talks because I prefer to be alone than with a group of people.
Extroverts tend to make friends easily which made me ask my immediate sister one day how she was able to make friends so easily. This is someone who doesn't find it hard even on the bus to extend her hand to someone and boom, they are friends, whereas I am always the hard nut that would not attempt to extend her hand for a friendship. I tried making a move one day but discovered I was trying to force something that doesn't come naturally, I just gave up.
There is no doubt, that friends make the world beautiful. Friends add colors to one's life and many times, being around a group of friends could make the journey faster. But does this mean all kinds of friends?
No!
There are people we shouldn't be around with as they aren't categorised as friends. When I have studied and observed someone, I quickly conclude in my mind whether to be friends with them or not. My energy doesn't stay around people who do not seem to be real friends and at this point, I'd rather be alone than hang around them. The kinds of friends one has would determine how far one goes in life.
Even when I love to be around friends whom I can travel the world with, hang out with, play around with, and learn from, I still find it hard to make the first move in embracing a friendship level because of my personality. When they come, I accept them while observing who they are and once I notice my energy is draining because of them, it doesn't take me time to exclude myself from them.
Having a few friends is worth more than having groups of people who do not add value to one's life but are only there to condemn or criticise you when things are going well. I don't like trouble and I try to avoid one but embrace peace. When I hear stories of how friends betray each other, hurt one another, and do wrong things behind each other, it makes me move back and prefer to be on my own rather than be around people who only frown at your success.
Whether online or offline, it is always difficult for me to make friends but when they appear, my heart is open for them and when I observe the kind of bad energy they bring, it's a no-go area for me.
I have just a few friends both online and offline and if I should count, they aren't more than 5 to 7 and I am very okay with them than having a bunch of friends that do not add value to one's life. Having the right cycle of friends is more meaningful than thousands of them with nothing to contribute to your life.
Even if it's possible to live this life without friends, I am okay but this life cannot be walked alone without having some of them around. That is why I categorise some people in my life depending on how they relate to me. To become my true friend takes a lot to be considered by me because I value my life and peace. I don't want to trust someone today and feel so hurt that I was betrayed tomorrow.
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Such wisdom here about friendship as an introvert! I deeply appreciated your thoughts on nurturing just a few loyal bonds instead of many shallow ones. Quality over quantity when it comes to uplifting relationships. Your words reminded me to cherish the positive confidants in my own life. Thank you for these insightful perspectives on what really matters.
Yes, you are right. Quality over quantity; that is how it supposed to be. Thanks, Jessy for your kind comment 👍
Some people are like your sister, they easily mingle and boom they make friends easily, but I can see you are friendly as well just that it will take you time to blend with people whom you are not familiar with.
Wow. You totally understand me. Yes, I am a friendly being but it's hard to make the first move with making friends but I don't send them off except their characters. Thank you, eunice 😊
You're not alone on this table 😅😅
I'm fully here.
Although, I know how to talk a lot, I find it so hard to just start talking in the midst of strangers like the extrovert people 😅.
God will help us. Amen
Hahaha. At least you can talk, not me. It weakens me when I see people talk too much or for long. Lol
Amen oo 😆
Some people are too gifted in talking eeeh!🤣
Naso oo. They can talk from morning till night without getting tired. Lol
My dear, you think twice before making friends. That is brilliant. Their is a say 'everything that glitters is not gold', this is true in the case of choosing a good friend. Hope you get a circle of good friends.
You are right. Some friends would come in form of being good and caring but they are not worth being called one to you. This is why I am careful of the kind of friends I allow in my life. Thank you, Shamis. Been a while! How are you doing?
Fine my dear. Hope you are also safe n sound. 😍
Yes, I am. I just saw your messages on Discord. Will reply soon.
Sure dear
Some people can act like they’re your friends when in actual sense they’re just trying to get closer to you to ruin you. I love that you are able filter your friends to know the real ones.
You really look like a baby in the first picture.😅
Hahaha 😆 I have a baby face oo
Yes, being able to filter the kind of friends is important so we can know the ones that are true and not. Thank you, Nhaji.
Fine girl Princess.😅 cut me soap please.
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I believe everyone we encounter can't be considered as friends until we are able to form meaningful connections with them. I find it difficult to make friends too or sometimes I makes friends but it becomes really difficult to keep them
Yes, not all people are friends and we must have reached that level of connections to consider them as true friends. Thank you.
You are welcome
From your description, you and I have a lot in common when it comes to making friends, I can tell I'm always open to friends who interact with me but I don't make lots of friends easily.
I love to truly connect with the friends I make and keeping a lot of them will make it hard for me.
You are right. Those who interact easily with me and one we flow together with might become close to us or not, it all depends on us but not everyone is considered as true friends if they aren't worth it.
You are right, and I think those of us who are introverted are good at choosing friends that are right for us due to our very observant in nature.
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Friends,hmmmm
Let me say I'm just starting to know my real friends and my real enemies who comes in friends form.
Really, having a few good friends is worth more than having people who do not add to one's life in a good way..
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Exactly. It is a lot of gain to have just a few friends that adds value to one's life than a bunch of fake ones that pretends to be friends.
A whole lot of gain ooo buh fake friends are just too many
Of course you can't make everyone that comes to you your friend. There's need for a scrutinization on their attitude and behavioural patterns.
Some people claim they want to be friends only because of what they can get out of the friendship and when they do not get what they want, their true self manifests.
Some people are humble Saducees, they frown at the progress and flourishing of others and seek for ways to bring those who are excelling down. No to negative energy. Cheers sis
You are right. Scrutinization is important when it comes to identifying friends you can move with or not. Even if one end up having just a friend who is real, it is okay enough than having much around who do not care about you or when you are excelling. Thank you, sis. How is the week going?
You are right there as well. My week is going great, thank you.
Have a lovely day ahead
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There’s something about your hairstyle in the first picture I can’t quite put my finger on. mmmm🤔
🤣🤣🤣 that was during our old school day in the University. We all dressed like secondary school students and my hairstyle is that of a school girl 😀
Keeping friends is one way we can find our true selves but as the author clearly stated, not everyone is worth staying up close to us.
Well written.
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You are right. Not everyone we open our arms to welcome because not all are real. Thank you, MrEnglish
Some will act like they are your sister but it's a lie they are just doing eye service, keeping friends will let us know who is truly our friends and enemies. Sane goes to me before making friends or talking to someone I will first observe the person before talking or making friends with them, and also to know your friends you will see how you guys click or blend together.
This is so true. I work with this principle too. One needs to be intentional while picking someone to be friend with. I once read a story of a man arrested with his friend who was a robbery suspect. Before he could prove his innocence, he was severely dealt with. In fact he spent some time in detention.
He would definitely have regretted having such a friend that got him implicated.
It's better to have a few trusted allies.
#dreemerforlife
Yes oo. Being intentional about our choice of friends would keep us in check and avoid problems that may surface later. There are some people who only come around to implicate and put us into trouble. We should avoid them. Thank you.