The heart behind the help
Many of our actions are the result of our upbringing and beliefs. We are different individuals, and it's not surprising that we make decisions differently.
In life, it is either you do something from your heart to people just for the sake of love or you do it to win people's hearts or their favor.
Let's just say people do things for some reason because, as humans, we have reasons for doing everything we do in life.
The truth is that it is good to do things from the heart because when you do it from the heart, you won't regret doing it even if the person you helped didn't reciprocate the help. But when you do things to win people's favor and in the end, it doesn't go as well as planned, then you will be pained and regret taking such a step.
Even the holy scriptures say there are blessings in giving and helping people, so it is very good and okay to give to charity because it is not everyone who looks good is doing okay for themselves. But the aspect of publishing the help you give to the charity to gain more fame and followers is what is bad because that does not count as help anymore.
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My mom made me and my siblings understand that once you help someone and you call someone else to witness it, you can't help but mock the person you claim to help.
She told us that when you help someone, another person must not know about it, and that is the kind of help that comes from the heart but is fake help to win people's favor.
There was a time I saw a social media influencer popularly known as Davido helping people, and he called his cameraman to video every single person he gave money to. Some people praised him and followed him, while some people said what he did was bad.
I don't like that aspect of him making videos of helping people; to me, he didn't do that from his heart, but he did that to gain more followers and people's hearts on social media.
Just this past yesterday, I saw a video of another celebrity sharing provisions at the hospital with sick people, and the camera was recording her giving people money and provisions.
What she did was good, but sharing it online for people to see is not a good thing but for her selfish interest. Sometimes I wonder if there are still people who help from their hearts and not because they want to gain people's favor and more followers for themselves.
No matter how many people would benefit from the help you wanted to render or anything you are willing to give to them, it shouldn't be publicized for any reason because you called it help and not a show where people come to win prices or items.
Once we make up our minds to help, it should be a private thing, and no matter how private it is, I believe people would still know about it, so why not let them find out and love us genuinely rather than publicizing it for them to see that we are actually helping people? Once you publish the help you render to people online, then your intentions are not pure, that is what I believe.
If someone helped me and I later discovered that the person was only doing that to gain people's favor and attention, I would definitely feel bad and embarrassed, even worthless because it is called help, which means it should be a private thing, not something the whole world would see.
Some people want to gain more donation which they will use for the same while others just want to make names. This is while personal motive is so important, I know of a one person who sponsors outreaches up and down but that want her name to be heard or mentioned anywhere in the social media...
It's all personal, I just wish we have a good definition to the things we do
Like seriously, people don't help now because they want to really do it from the heart, they are doing it for their selfish interest which is to gain more fame.
We are in the age where everyone films almost everything that goes on in their daily lives just to create content and gain more likes and followers notwithstanding the fact that there are certain things that should remain offline.
And that is a very bad thing because nothing is private to people anymore, well I can never do that anyway because I love my privacy
Your mother is a true definition of good person, I call it mockery as well because giving should be done secretly if you invite third party then it because public.
Yeah and I never forget that because I wouldn't like it if someone helped me and told others
Everything must have a balance in life, I evaluate very well who to support and who not to, for this I measure their actions according to my scale of values. Generally, those who help do so out of some interest, as human beings that is in our nature. A boy who likes a girl will try to attract her by doing things that she likes to win her heart, like saying nice words to her and things like that. But there are deeper things and feelings that go beyond that, therefore, each situation must be seen under a microscope and examined.
As for those influencers, I generally don't believe in them, since very few are the ones who do things because it comes from their heart.
Those social media influencer never helped without showing it to the world which means they are only doing it for their own sake
Of course, they are only looking for their own benefit, in the post I am writing right now, I explain how I evaluate the topic, in a while I will publish it so that if you like you can take a look =)
I hate it when someone is helping people all because of a publicity.
It is a very bad thing but people don't care because of the small thing they want to get in return
Thanks for the beautiful curation
The purpose and intention are important. You see, there is nothing wrong when a good deed is being filmed and shared online, but it becomes bad when the video is led by the person hosting the help. There is a difference between doing something and someone is filming you without your knowledge and then uploads it to appreciate your kindness than you wanting it to be filmed just because you want people to see you are being kind.
When you are helping, don't let your second hand know, says the Bible.