Forgetting my past
Most times, forgetting our past becomes the most difficult thing we have to deal with, and letting go became a battle we have to fight at every point in our lives, but why is it difficult when I am to have the character of christ, the answer is simple I choose to do it my own way and not christ way, Another reason why forgiveness becomes difficult is when we can't Forgive ourselves, forgiveness becomes possible when we have first forgiven ourselves, we can only give out of the abundant of what we have, we have to stop living in the guilt of what we have done or what we have done to others, forgiveness helps to liberate us of our guilts.
Forgiveness should be our lifestyle, because Christ has forgiven us our trespasses.
Forgiveness is not automatic, rather it is a gradual process and it demands patience to achieve it.
Every experience you've had from the moment we were born until now has made us where we are today, the things that happened to us in our past years determines how we act or react to situations around us.
There are things stored up in each of us that must be dealt with in our lives before we can move ahead successfully.
Forgetting closes the door on the past and reaching open the door to the future.
But how can I forget what he/she has done to me, that kind of betrayal, disappointment, heartbreak e.t.c. it might seem difficult at the beginning but we have to let go because keeping the grudges is dwelling in the past. It's like building a house in our heart and keeping the person there, and that is a heavy weight, because with that hatred will set in.
Now most of the time we think we have forgiven, but will still holding grudges against the person, that is not forgiveness, forgiveness is letting go and forgetting totally.
Another thing is that unforgiveness drains our emotions and energy, which causes pains and mostly we become shallow of ourselves, that is where depression sets in, so we can save our strength and energy by letting it go.
I see unforgiveness as a burden or a chain that binds, and it comes with depression and unhappiness, most of the time we try our best to lessen the burden by sharing our pains with others, but our effort seems to be abortive, this is because we have not yet forgiven ourselves, we will still remain the same, even when we wish to move forward but that guilt of what you have done or what others have done to us keeps us bound and places us in one position.
Personal experience of unforgiveness
I have hurt people, and people have hurt me as well, the last one was so heavy on me that i was like a walking corpse because of the state of depression i found myself, it was as though the whole world had turned against me, each moment of my life was full of guilt, pains, tears, confusion e.t.c I felt that I was all alone the burden was so heavy for me to bear.
But Glory to God in the midst of that God sent help to me through men, who taught me forgiveness, He said I have to forgive myself first, only then can I forgive others. even when I tried to forgive myself i saw myself living in guilt, but I overcame it through prayers and constant advice. Having the right people in your life aid in forgetting our past.
I can boldly say it out because I choose to forgive and forget.
Forgiveness is the fastest way of forgetting my past, unforgiveness keeps you bound, and also keeps you in the past
Whatever we confess with your mouth is what we'll see happen.
Thank you.