Danger of Low Self Esteem

Low self esteem has destroyed so many people unknowingly, and has also hinders people from attaining a height they would have loved for themselves.
Nobody was born with it, but most of it was a result of the situations which we were faced with this develops gradually and it becomes so difficult to deal it affects negatively. Low Self esteem is not automatic, but it is a gradual process which requires time.

The prerequisites for self esteem are love, attention, encouragement, care, and discipline.
Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves, and it is based on our opinions and beliefs of ourselves, whatever we think about ourselves is exactly what we will be prone to, both in actions, speech and reactions.

The parents have a great role to play in building up the self esteem of their children, When once there's a vacuum in the role of the parents in building this up, the child is bound to suffer in one way or the other.
There is a provision that you will reap what you have sown in them, Positivity or negatively.
Building a child's self esteem is essential, a child that has been cared for, and encouraged can never be like a child that lacks care, encouragement, and abused at the slightest opportunity, their outcome cannot be the same.

I have a wonderful family, a place where there is love, peace, encouragement and comfort, but what led to my low self esteem was, after the death of my Dad, where I went to stay, what I experienced at home was different from what I was experiencing in the new environment i found myself. It didn't just start, but i grew into it, it got to a point where I chose to stay all alone to avoid talking to people, simply because of the way I think and believed about myself, I believe that I'm not good enough, and what ever I do I will not be appreciated. So I choose to isolate myself and concentrate. Most of the time I believe that's how everyone is, so I was comfortable with it. Although most of the time it brings depression, but after a while I will encourage myself and continue, but unknowingly to me, I was harming myself, I didn't know I would get to a stage where i will be called upon to speak to people.
I remember the first day I was called upon to present a seminar, guess what? Stage freight with low self esteem, I was shivering, stammering, crying etc. but all thanks to God, He helped me and saw me through, how did i overcome it then, i took a deep breath, and encourage myself continually, "I can do it" and that was it. After that day I made up my mind that such disgrace will never occur again, so I began to work on myself, read books, and God gave me great friends who advised, prayed and encouraged me, they did not see a fearful young girl but saw a great woman in me.
It was not palatable, it took me time, pains and effort before I came out of it. When there is low self esteem it tempers with our self-confidence.
If I had the attention and encouragement needed, it wouldn't have turned out that way.

Now that could be avoided, give them the care, attention, encouragement and discipline they need, this will help.
Everyone lacks confidence occasionally, but can be encouraged easily and they move on, but people with low self-esteem are unhappy and unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.
It takes attention and daily practice to boost a low self-esteem. Low self-esteem can reduce the quality of a person’s life.
Thank you for reading.