Two sides - There's a difference

Experience has taught me that most times common sense doesn't always apply to a lot of things, that sometimes, where you find yourself would determine if what you're doing is right or wrong.

For example, I remember the other day when I was in the midst of some group of guys and someone had said that internet fraud isn't a bad thing. When he made that statement, I had expected someone to counter it but to my surprise, everyone seemed to agree with him, so I did the only thing I felt I could do to avoid people looking at me sideways, I said nothing.

What that meant was that right at that moment, in that gathering, common sense had been locked up, the keys thrown away and irrespective of the name, internet fraud wasn't a fraud anymore.

This was why when one of friends had tried justifying cheating today, and some of the guys around had agreed with him, I wasn't entire surprised because I now understood the game. This friend of mine had tried to convince me that it's not really cheating if you're only kissing someone who isn't your partner, as long as you're not having sex with them.

The moment he said that, I immediately shifted my consciousness to think about something else because I already knew where that conversation was headed and I wasn't in the mood for dumb arguments.

So instead of engaging in their argument, I had started one of my own with myself. I started to think about cheating and how some people are only loyal to their partner, not because they don't want to cheat but because they haven't been in a situation where they can cheat.

_{photo by Mario Dobelmann}

A better way to break down what I'm trying to say is using me as an example. Back in the day where I was a little kid, I've always known within myself that nothing was ever going to make me smoke. But when I got to university, I found myself in the midst of friends who smoked all day, and often times they would jokingly pass the weed to me and ask me to take a puff, which I always refused.

I soon found out that finding myself in that situation and still choosing not to do it was a lot harder than when I was at home telling myself that nothing was going to make me smoke. So although I kept to my word, I saw the difference in both scenarios.. Saying you won't do something when that situation isn't staring at you in the face, and actually saying no to that thing when it's right there in front of you and all you have to do is stretch out your hands and grab it, are two very separate things.

Unfortunately, a lot of people claim to be loyal to their partners when in reality, the only thing stopping them from actually cheating on their partner is the fact that someone from the opposite sex hasn't walked up to them yet, to try to get them to cheat.

So know the difference.