I Might Be Wrong
Experience has taught me that when people get used to certain things, they start to feel entitled to it, even though if you doing that stuff for them was nothing but just a favour at the beginning.
Although I've come to to know how to handle situations like this when they happen, back in the day, it used to be a surprise to me whenever I see someone acting that way.
But before I go any further, I'd like to say that maybe all of this might just be me overthinking stuff and I could be totally wrong about my observation, but just in case I'm not, this is something that happened a while back that I just feel shows someone who has gotten so used to getting stuff all the time, that they now think it is their right to get that stuff all the time.
Some few days ago, I had asked a friend of mine to accompany me to this fast food restaurant so that we could go get some food. Now this person happens to be a close friend of mine who most times we're always seen hanging out together.
Now most times, whenever I'm with this person and I'm getting anything edible, I usually would buy for two or sometimes not buy at all (even for myself) if I noticed that I don't have enough money to get for two. Sometimes though I end up buying for just myself if I don't have enough money on me but really want that stuff.
Anyways, after we were done eating and were coming back home, we had walked past this bar where they sell all kind of drinks and meat too. So I had decided to stop and get one for myself. This was one of those situations where I didn't have enough money on me but really needed to get the meat for myself because it looked good and tasty.
So I ended up buying just for myself before we both continued our journey back home. The meat was also quite expensive and buying two of it at that moment wasn't exactly an expenses that was budgeted for.
Anyways, just as we started to walk back home, I began to notice that my friend's countenance had changed, almost like he was upset about something. This was someone who was just laughing some few minutes ago before we got to that bar, and all of a sudden he was not happy.
Now maybe he was upset at the fact that he couldn't buy one for himself at that time, that could have been it...but why I kinda doubt it is because this isn't really the first time I've observed him behave this way and everytime I see it, I make sure not to address it or say anything about it because I honestly feel it's none of my business.
That is something he has to deal by himself, to be able to control himself not to feel like he's being owed something everytime someone else gets something for themselves.
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I fully relate to this. There are so many people who are just shamelessly expecting the world to revolve around them. They want to take whereas they have nothing to offer themselves. Well, even if they had, they might be stingy over those. I despise these people. They hold even others' growth as well as themselves.
Most of them just feel entitled.. Like it's their right to own what you have.
Exactly, some I have even called out, and then they go around spreading that I am some rude guy who you just can't talk to, LMAO
I think your friend expects too much from you and it's not a good sign. I don't think there is anything to be upset about. I don't love to keep such kinds of friends around me because most of the time those kinds of friendships ended up badly. Each time you buy something in front of him increasing the negative thoughts about you. So, there are 2 solutions in my opinion although it is not your mistake. The first one is to try to maintain distance otherwise try not to buy things in front of him. I recommend the first one. Whatever, the choice if yours as you will bear the consequences.
I can do that or just let him know that my money belongs to me and I can get whatever I want, whenever I want.