If you love your kids take care of yourself.

One of the deepest and strongest relationships in life is the relationship between a mother and her child, before a child is born, the mother has already bonded with the child during pregnancy this bond is based on intimacy, love, and care, the child looks up to the mother for care, love, protection, and guidance.

Women by nature are emotional beings and this makes them bond deeply with their children, A woman may sacrifice her happiness, joy, and peace just for her kids to be fine that's why a lot of women would endure abusive marriages just for the sake of their kids, some mothers wouldn't mind doing anything just to make sure that their's food for her children, most times a mother's actions may be accompanied by her emotions and her emotions may carry her away and forgets to care for herself.

Have been a victim just like most women out there, I remember when I gave birth, everything around me was for the baby which was good, and when I had more kids my responsibilities as a mum increased in such a way that most times I couldn't meet up to the responsibilities and I felt so bad and I felt I had failed as a good mother.

With three kids trust me, it wasn't easy, I would wake up so early in the morning to run around for the kids and I could not even create time for myself, there was no time to eat. I felt satisfied once the kids had eaten, skipping meals wasn't intentional. I kept procrastinating and telling myself that when am through with some house chores I would eat, but before I knew I would end up having my breakfast at noon.

Most times I knew my body needed rest but I had no time for it. I wasn't intentional about my resting periods I felt I could use the resting time to do a few things before the kids were back from school, at the end of the day I would be so worn out and tired, that I would ignore some symptoms of stress and still drive on and on until a day came that I was seriously sick I was mentally, emotionally and physically stressed.

I was hospitalized I could not care for my kids, then my sister said something that day that made a whole lot of sense to me till today. She said, "Can u just determine to be fine for your kids?" I realized that I needed to survive for my kids and live healthily for them. if I love them enough I will have to take care of myself for them and live long enough to see them grow.

I know our lives revolve around and are centered mostly on our kids but the consequences of neglecting our mental and physical health for our kids are fatal, stress, anxiety problems, frustrations, depression, feelings of exhaustion, the feeling of burnout, etc.

There are better ways to meet up. our kids' demands without endangering our health in the process.

1.) Know your strength and your capacity

You don't have to have ten kids just like your mum or the neighbor next door, you know yourself you understand your body if it can handle it,you know your capacity and strength, build around your strength.

2.) Seek for help

Don't feel bad about asking for help, seeking help sometimes may be hard, because in today's society, a lot of people are judgmental, and you may be judged by those who are physically stronger and have the strength to do the things you can't do. Remember you don't have to burn out to prove a point, seek help and ignore them.

3.) Be intentional about your health.

Fight to stay healthy and alive, eat early so that you can have strength for your kids, rest so that you can be refreshing enough for them, and refuse to be stressed out by house chores. If you can't finish all at once it's still ok, you are not a failure. So stop feeling bad and guilty.

4.) Be mentally and emotionally stable for your kids

As a mother, choose to be happy no matter the situation children are good at imitations they are great imitators, and they can imitate effortlessly. If you constantly feed them with negative vibes they will grow into it, be conscious of your child's mental health because your mental health is the environment in which your child's mental health will thrive. Create time for fun once in a while take yourself out, and enjoy nature.

5.) Communicate

Learn to talk to someone it relieves stress, talk to friends who have been in your shoes they may have great advice on how they handled their issues.