TWO SIDES OF A COIN 🪙

Life has taught me to always put myself first before other people.

I'm a kind of person that loves making other people smile and comfortable when they're around me. But the problem is, other people don't reciprocate the same energy i give to them .

I have come to realise that, being selfless don't really pay, people don't get to see the effort you put in making them happy and and comfortable.

People can be really selfish and only think about what's is gonna be in their favour only.

Writing this article, makes me to reminisce on the the days I'd sacrifice my happiness to make other people happy, and guess what? It's either they don't appreciate it or they pay me back in a negative way

FLASH BACK

Flash back to when my cousin wanted to sign out of secondary school, i wanted it to be a special one for her as mine wasn't special . But on the other hand, i was broke as at that time, i didn't have money and I wasn't expecting any money, except from my salary and the month just began.

Regardless of my broke situation, i still wanted her sign out to be a special one. Then i decided to make a most crazy move ever, i went to break my piggy bank . I promised myself not to break my piggy bank till the end if the year.

I guess that was just being too caring, I make sure I put everything in place, I had a shoe I just bought new, she loved it and I gave her to put it on for her party. I just wanted to make her feel loved and valued, I never go to experience any special treatment when I was leaving secondary school.

On the sign out day, I told her i wasn't going to come, but I gave her surprise, I took excuse from work and when to surprise her in her sign out party...

She was so happy and excited to see me, the smile and the happiness on her face, just made me feel so fulfilled.
I didn't want to spend much time there, so I just give her the surprise I brought for her, and some money.

She felt so proud to have a sister to stand by her, all her friends were just jealous of her, and I was happy because that's made me a proud elder sister.

Negative changes

After the sign out party that same day, it rained heavily on my way back I just had to look for somewhere to find shelter from the rain, I wasn't even bothered about the rain cuz I've had a fulfilled day.

When she came back home she was so happy and tired, I just allowed her to relax a bit. The shoes are borrowed to her, it was filled with dirt and sand, I guess it was because of the rain, my regardless I overlooked it cuz I understand, how it feels to work under the rain with shoes on.

The next day I was expecting my cousin sister to clean up the shoes and returned back to me since the party was over, she took the shoes and kept them in the show rack, funny enough she didn't even bother to clean them.

At first I got annoyed, and I confronted her, and asked her to clean my shoes, she apologized, saying she forgot to clean the shoes before keeping them in the shoe rack, I overlooked it cuz we are humans we can make mistake.

After few days later, I found out my shoe was still in the shoe rack without being cleaned, this time around I wasn't friendly about it, I walked up to her and ask her why she have refused to clean my shoes. She apologized tell me she's going to come clean now, she actually cleaned the shoes but she didn't clean them properly.

Fast forward to when we had little arguments, that wasn't really big, I honestly can't remember what made us argue, or made us quarrel, she was just saying all sort of things to me, honestly I didn't expect the disrespect from her.

I told her mom about it, I told her mom when we having a conversation, saying I didn't even expect her daughter to behave and talk to me in such manner, even after the things I did for her, her mom was asking me what and what did I do for her daughter....

I was like I didn't do too much, but I know I made her happy and got her new clothes on her sign out today, her mom's reaction was a blast, like I never saw it coming, her mom was like because I bought new clothes for her daughter and my surprise her on her sign out day, that is why I'm talking about it.

Sincerely, I didn't bring up the clothes matter or the sign of matter because of I wanted to talk about it, but I just brought it up to let her know that I really care and love her daughter, she was my junior cousin, but I literally took care of her the way I was going to treat my own blood sister or my own siblings.

The argument didn't end well, her mom asked her to return everything I bought for her, the cargo pants, some clothes I've given her in the past, her mom literally asked her to return everything. Honestly I felt so bad, because I didn't expect something like this to come up, she didn't even return the money I give to her, since she wanted to return the things I give to her she would've returned the money along with her.

MORAL LESSON

Never go out of your way to make someone else happy, whatever you're doing for someone, always keep in mind that you can't please everyone, regardless of how hard you try, people can change regardless of who they are to you.

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