[WE123] Weekend-Engagement posting topics - Dependable.

This is my response to "[WE123] Weekend-Engagement Friday blog prompts" You can also join the challenge here.

Topic:

Are you a person others can depend upon or are you dependent upon others? Explain your answer and how either affects your life.

My strength was built from the things I went through. Life passed through me many times which made it easier for me to relate to what most people are going through and offer a hand. A lot of people would never offer you their hands or even speak with you because they have been used to a lot of people who took that for granted. They dragged them to filth all because they wanted a voice to listen to them. I've come to understand that most people don't need money, they just need someone to listen to them and guide them through that phase.

While growing up, I depended a lot on my dad for everything. I mean everything...even delivering love letters, cards and gifts to my neighbour; girlfriend which everyone knew at that time. I depended on her brothers too to be the bearer of those letters. Life took an unexpected turn and I lost my dad. I saw things differently, I saw things from another angle. Of course, there were more testimonies of the people he helped who couldn't accept that he was dead while we also have a few family members who heard all these testimonies and felt he should have helped them even more too if he hadn't been so much of help to "outsiders".

The testimonies weighed heavily on my mind and they made me want to be there for others. That's why my mantra has always been: "I would rather live a day and touch many lives than live for a hundred years and not be remembered by anyone."

I am someone people can depend on. I always have an opinion to give when asked, I always want to be there to answer people's questions and give them clarity...I want to show support in various ways that others need. This is how I've lived my life since 2006 and I wouldn't have it any other way.

A friend of mine sent me a message many years ago (I tried looking for the screenshot through Google photos but couldn't because I know I screenshot it that year) and said "If I was asked to call someone quickly and the person would answer me, you are my go-to guy". What she said touched me because that's how I want to be remembered...someone that can be depended on... someone you can run to...someone who can be there for you while giving you that relief.

This lifestyle changed my life a lot because it made me want to be at my best behaviour always. It positively affects my life because it makes me extra sensitive. I see what others can't see...focus on the tiny details and it pushes me to be a better person too. On the downside, it means I don't have a lot of people who I can depend on because I am most people's go-to and very few people ask me how I am doing. It hurts a little but when I think about the good and the positive influence I have on others, it makes it easier to bear.

Most people know they can always depend on me but not many people put themselves out there for me. I've been used to that life because I've seen how even extended family members acted so very little things surprise me these days. I take things in stride and focus on what I can do for others and whatever good comes along the way, I am open to it.

I had a lady friend that I was there for when she was going through a terrible break-up and helped nurse her back to health. I was even there when she found a new one and spoke at length with her. When the relationship was steady, she cut me off 😂🤣😂 and didn't even tell me about the wedding. I listened to a message around that time when I was thinking if I must have done anything wrong and the message was clear to me that doctors don't hold on to patients when they are whole...you let them go on with their lives and that was how I didn't hold anything against her anymore and we still speak once in a while.

So, yes... I am the guy that can be depended on and this helps me to always want to be at my best. That's why I am happy most of the time because I don't want to ever take out my foul mood against anyone that needs my help.

Thank you for your time.

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