The dangers of excessive tolerance

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog. One thing I have come to realize about life is that making mistakes is part of growing up, but making the same mistake twice is what I cannot really say. Growing up as young adults we had the room and privilege to make mistakes, and then we blame it on immaturity and that it is a stage of life everyone has to go through. Making mistakes as a young adult might not really put your back on the ground because most of the time we have room to correct our mistake, but making the same mistake as a fully grown adult can cause one everything, and they might never recover or be able to correct their mistake.

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Trust me, some mistakes are forgiveable and some are not forgivable. There are some mistakes that an individual will make that will hurt, but it will not be enough reason to just cut them off and move on without them. But there are certain mistakes that require you to cut off a person for your own good and for your own mental health. Some mistakes do not need to be given a second chance, as some people take second chances for granted and end up doing it again since you forgave them the other time and they expect you to do it again.

Most of the time humans only do things to see how the other person reacts, so when they do this hurtful thing and you let them have another chance, they might end up doing the same thing again, like the case in our neighborhood sometime ago where an elder brother sent money to the village for his younger brother to help him supervise his building construction, but the younger brother instead used the money for his own needs and kept lying to his elder brother about the construction ongoing only for the elder brother to find out a year later, but as siblings he gave him another chance and the same thing happened. There are people out there who do not believe in second chances because of this. Many people do things to see how you would react, and if you take it lightly, then they tend to make it a habit after all, you would do nothing.

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The instance above does not mean everyone is the same; there are people who would genuinely turn a new leaf if given a second chance, and there are still people who would take the second chance as an opportunity to strike again. For me, I can give second chances for a lot of things, no matter how hurtful, but there are no second chances for a cheating partner; accepting the apology of a cheating partner is no no. I believe that for a partner to cheat, it simply means their heart or a part of them is already with the other person, so what is the point of accepting their apologies when there is an 80 percent chance that whatever attracted them to the other in the first place is still there? So it is better to just let them go instead of wasting time.