Raising my kids well and properly without much physical punishment.

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Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. Most of us grew up under very strict parents; most of our parents were no-nonsense parents, as every little thing we did wrong called for a lot of punishment. Some of these punishments were worth the sins we committed, while some were way more. Growing up, my dad was more strict, though he was never around, but whenever he is, he punishes you the moment you mess up, while mom is the type that lets you mess up as much as you want, and then on a very good day she will unleash, reminding you of all the mess ups you thought you got away with.

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My mom can let you go if you beg and show remorse, but it is not so for my dad. Sometimes we have neighbors coming to beg, and even at that, he would make sure he had punished us to his satisfaction before agreeing to let us go. The truth is that my parents being so strict helped keep us straight and prevented us from getting ourselves involved in anything that would result in getting punished, but it did affect our relationship with them, especially our relationship with our father. Due to how strict he was, we became scared of him, and whenever he was at home, we became uncomfortable as he would punish for every little thing you do. His excessive punishment to us did not portray hatred in any way because he showed us how much he loved us; he made sure we had everything we needed in abundance and did not let his love for us deter him from giving us the punishment of our lives, and the fear of what he would do to us kept us on track.

We grew up scared of him and cannot ask him for something directly; we have to go through our mother to get him to do things for us. Sometimes our mother will decline to deliver our message because even our dad was complaining as to why we cannot approach him and ask for things but did not realize that how strict and how easily he punishes us was the problem. We grew up scared of him; it took a lot of time before we started to get comfortable around him and comfortably ask him for things. These days when we argue about football, I tend to wonder if it was the same person that raised me when I was little, but I realized that he has seen that there is no way we would go off track now, so he had to let his guard down and build a relationship with us.

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As much as I love how my parents raised me and how their training has made me who I am, I really would not want to raise my child exactly the same way as I would really love a father-to-child relationship with my kids and not have to wait until my kids are all grown up before we get to enjoy a father-to-child relationship with my kids, so I will mostly use word of mouth (advises) to correct my kids for their mistakes and will only use the physical punishment method if need be and they fail to follow instructions, but using physical punishment for every mistake is not a style of upbringing I will like for my kids.