Sigh.... Arguments Are Such A Drag..

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Just this afternoon, one of my work colleague told me she wanted to talk to me and I left everything I was doing to listen to what she has to say. I was expecting her to say something that was bothering her. I was also expecting to hear her life story which will end in her billing me. Mentally, I have already prepared for her to land, and my response has already been prepared. However, what she asked me left me wondering. The question was totally unexpected.

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She said "Nurse Dan, please don't be offended by what I want to ask you oo, but I have observed it for some time now, and I said let me ask you." I was like "okay? What is it do you want to ask."

Why don't you like flowing with people? Even when we had a meeting recently, you just shared your opinion and remained quite all through. You even had to leave immediately the meeting finished." I have been trying to connect with you but it seems like you don't really want that. She added.

At this point, I didn't know what to say. Before she started talking, I was doing something else. You know, trying to multitask but when she said that, I had to pause, turned my head to look at her first, then I turned the seat I was seating on. When she saw that she got my attention, she smiled and said, it's good as you turned.

How will I tell this girl that I don't like relating with them because I'm avoiding issues? I asked myself. Welp, I just cooked up something immediately and gave her as a reply.

One thing I totally hate with passion is having to argue with somebody. When making friends, one of the most important things I assess is - if the person likes arguments. Like bro, I'm not a lawyer neither I'm I a philosopher. Go argue with your reflection and leave me out of it.
Instead of arguing, I prefer to totally avoid people. Sometimes, I maybe right, but to avoid an argument, I will just make it seem like I'm in the wrong and then, apologize.

Unfortunately, no matter how hard I try to avoid arguments, people always find a way to argue with me.

I remember one day, I had an emergency in the Accident and emergency unit. The patient presented with hypertension and hyperglycemia plus other signs and symptoms.

I immediately started my nursing intervention. After checking the vital signs, I sited the I.V line and prepared an infusion to control the raised blood pressure before the doctor comes and make a diagnosis.

One of my colleague, a newly graduated nurse, came in and started arguing that I should not administer the infusion I wanted to administer. She said I should administer something else that has sugar instead. I tried to explain to her the reason for the infusion I was about to administer, but she insisted that what I am doing was wrong.

I didn't want to argue, so, I said she's right. I kept quite and went out with the infusion I wanted to administer. After infusing it, in the presence of the patient, she wanted to start pointing out that I was administering the wrong infusion.

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To avoid losing the patient's trust in the medical team, I had to call her aside, then I went online to show her that what she wanted me to do was actually wrong. I opened a few medical site and proved to her that I knew what I was doing. When she saw that I was correct, she could not say a thing. Though she accepted that she was wrong, I could not help it but wonder........ Had it been I used the infusion she proposed, what would have been the fate of that patient? Medics needs to actually have extensive knowledge.

Had it been this case didn't involve a life, I would have just admitted defeat and leave the environment. I don't actually want to waste my energy trying to explain things to somebody that will never want to listen to what I have to say, so, it's better to walk out. Some people will even want to use your words against you in an argument. So, I always walk away from any argument.

The only argument I could stay and listen to - is when two scholars of my field of study argue. I will stay because I know that when they argue about a particular topic, I would gain an unforgettable knowledge. I would not join the argument even though I know what they are arguing about, but, I will keep listening with a closed mouth.

Sometimes, arguments escalate to the extent that both parties engage in a physical fight. This is the height of it. That's why I hate arguing. One way I avoid this is to admit defeat on time. If somebody keep insisting that they are right and I am wrong, or we're arguing about something and they are not listening to me, I will just quietly sit down, or I go out of that environment. Admitting defeat and walking out always help to avoid such moments of physical exchanges.

Thank you for reading.

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I also avoid arguments whenever I can, but sometimes it’s difficult, right? I think we need to know how to choose our battles to maintain peace and balance

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I like your style, there is nothing worth discussing with your colleagues if it does not relate to your work, things like that only lead to see finish and drama in the future.

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