I Can Only Try My Best

You know what they say about training up a child in the way he/she should grow and when that child is grown the child won't depart from the upbringing he has received from his parents. I so much believe these words, but at the same time, we can't deny the fact that children nowadays are deviating from the ways of their fathers.

For instance, if you look at our society today, you would discover that young boys and girls from good upbringings are the ones being influenced the most by the worldly immoralities of life. I have seen countless cases of parents who trained their kids to avoid stealing and be contented with what they have, but the kids ended up engaging in fraudulent activities (Yahoo) and even prostitution.

All am trying to point out here is that in this age and time, it is very easy to change the mindset of a child and make that child forget everything that he/she had ever learned from their parents. We have some group of people called influencers on social media, and these people are called influencers because they have the ability to make others copy their ways and lifestyles whether good or bad.

These are some of the dangers that came with the technological innovations we are enjoying today, so we can't possibly fight technological advancements at this time, all we would need to do is find a way to control some of these challenges.

If I happen to be a parent in this era, and for instance I trained my child to love and appreciate his gender as a man, but he grows up to follow an influencer and decides to change his gender to a woman, you wouldn't expect me to react with a smile, ordinary I might even disown that child, but would that solve the problem?

If my child deviate from what I had taught him throughout his childhood, I would first of all question my training skills because the problem might be coming from me. Maybe I have not really taught my child the right things he needs to know, or maybe I have been opposing my will on him without letting him have his opinion all along.

I would not rush to blame or disown my child for changing, instead as a wise man, I would want to know how he was convinced because I could be the ignorant one amongst the both of us, hehe. This is another way to say dialogue is the best way to resolve any matter and age is not the only factor to a person's understanding ability.

But in cases when am very sure and convinced to be on the right path, I would try my best to communicate my clear points and prove that am on the right track, so my child must have to understand and make amends, except I have been raising a foolish child all along.

Everyone loves freedom and at the same time, everyone has the power to make their own choices. So I can't always control the choice of my child forever, because if he grows and is out of my sight he might be influenced by the people that would teach him the wrong things. After all, they would present him with the power to choose which to follow.

The best thing to do when raising a child is to make sure you are first convinced of the values you are installing in them. Nothing beats conviction, because if the child sees all the necessary proof and is 100% convinced of his belief, there's a 90% chance that he can't be deceived in the future.

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The problem is that many parents aren't even convinced of what they are installing in their children. For instance, am an armed robber but am raising my child to be a good boy in society, forgetting that my child would not be convinced enough and might easily be negatively influenced later in life.

My father would always tell me that every wise Dad would want his son to be better than him in every aspect of life. So I could imagine the pain a father would feel to know that the child he had trained to be better than him is now going out of track.

But like I said we all have our unique choices, as a father I can only show you the best way to follow, I can't force you to obey my will forever. Even the holy book made it clear to us that everyone would give account for their lives, a father wouldn't pay for the sins of his child or vice versa.

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