It gets hard being an adult

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The tremendous amount of responsibility that comes with being an adult makes it really hard. Sometimes, I feel like being a child again, but then, I also remember when I was a child and how I was admiring adulthood, especially after watching a movie of mom and her kids having fun. Hehe, I will get lost in thought and keep imagining myself being an adult and becoming someone's wife and mom someday, making my own money, making my own choices, and taking care of myself all by myself. I think I wasn't told that the responsibilities of being an adult aren't for the fainthearted; otherwise, I wouldn't be wishing for this huge chore called adulthood but rather wishing to remain a child if possible 😃.
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A lot of the time, I feel overwhelmed by different responsibilities pulling me here and there. In my home currently as a married woman, I have numerous bills to think of, I have my households to take care of, and I have the moral behavior of my kids to keep an eye on, teach, and guide at all times. I have food to think about: what to cook today, what should be the breakfast, lunch, or dinner, what about the plans for tomorrow, and the cycle continues. Taking care of children is a whole lot of stress on its own, and taking care of my husband cannot be overlooked because of kids. All these come with stress, and most times they weigh me down completely. However, because all of them are important, I try setting priorities and taking each task one step at a time.


When I was a child, I didn't encounter any financial pressures. I will only ask for money and expect to have it. But now, it's dawned on me that making money is hard, and many people are looking up to me to assist them financially, both family members and friends. Everyday there's things to spend on, including unexpected expenses, and all these exert pressures that affect our mental health sometimes. As much as we hustle to make this money and pay bills, we also think of savings for the future or perhaps investments. These are the baked stresses that adults face from time to time. How can I forget how we struggle to graduate from the university and start job hunting to make ends meet? This part is never easy for adults.


A lot of the time, the overwhelming responsibility that comes with adulting makes me forget to take care of myself. Life gets busier than expected, and I begin to find it difficult to maintain a balance between my personal life, my work, and my family. Today, I am struggling to meet up with my set goals on my work because money is highly needed in today's economy. Tomorrow, I am thinking of giving my family quality time regardless of work. Next, I am thinking of shopping to replace the necessity at home, cooking for the family, and taking care of home by cleaning everywhere. These are demands of adulting, especially for a parent, and it's a mental load that I struggle with as a woman.. However, I discussed with my husband recently how these stresses can be reduced, and we concluded on getting a paid housekeeper and delegating some chores to him or her. This is still a work in progress. For now, I take on lots of responsibilities all by myself, hoping that the stress gets alleviated soon while I concentrate on the sensitive roles at home.


In conclusion, the many demands of adulthood make me feel that I am not prepared for this, but to make it all better regarding the challenges,I do embrace setting priorities. This way, I focus on getting one task done before moving on to another. Also, I try connecting with friends to unwind when I feel so much overwhelmed, and it does help to a large extent.

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You already became the person what you wanted to be in your childhood but now you feel you were not ready for it. Actually, that's life and childhood time is like a fantasy time and we just think about the positive consequences and we had almost no insight about the responsibility. I also wish sometimes I would remain a child for forever. Then I would not need to think about responsibility which became like a shackle for all of us.
!LUV

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Hehehe, exactly how I feel when responsibilities looks overwhelming 😃
Childhood life is devoid of worry but we have to keep climbing the stages of life and seeking ways to overcome life challenges
Thanks for visiting

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The idea of a paid housekeeper is sure a nice one to ease the workload, goodluck.

The key indeed is just taking it once at a time like you just say, adulthood is demanding and certainly requires a lot from us and above all, we ought to be mentally strong to embark on these journey... Once at a time, take rest I think that should be fine.

It's certainly not easy for me taking care of myself alone talk more of when kids are involved so I certainly understand

All the best

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Yes...the housekeeper idea will be effective from next year including a cook 😌😃, I can't kill myself by myself, haha.i hope it works out
Yea, rest is important like I am just Woking up from a short nap 😴 and I feel refreshed

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Adulthood is such a big task that no amount of preparation gets you ready for it. We wished to become adults as kids and now that we are here, we now understand the deal that it comes with.

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You are right about this..no one can prepare enough for this . No one also can remain a kid forever so, we gat to deal with it, 😃

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Adulthood is too much workload, I agree with you about setting priorities, we can't kill ourselves with stress wanting to do with all.

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Exactly... wanting to do it all can be so tasking and not healthy
Thanks for reading 🤗

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As a kid, I used to get mad at my parents when they said they didn’t have money. I would always say that I know they have money, they just don’t want to give me. Now, I see how the life is and I know it’s not easy.

As for you, you’re a role model to most of us here. Being a mom, a wife, a career woman , a hiver and whale is not easy.😅 I’m amazed by how you manage to keep it all together.

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Haha 😆 🤣🤣🤣, I hope you received a hot slap by requesting money anyhow then, haha 😂😆.now you know better..lolz

Wait oo, why did you include whale 🐋🐳 in that list.... please I can't take the position of our very own original whale @merit.ahama 🏃🚶🏃🏃🚶🚶🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🤸

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the funny thing is i always get what I want in the end.

you are both whales.😂

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I saw the title of the post and immediately screamed yes! Becoming an adults comes with some many overwhelming responsibilities and if one is not careful it can lead to a series of mental breakdowns.

Keeping things together can be tough and it takes a really smart and determined human to do so.

!LADY

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Is this mental breakdown I am always avoiding my dear ..I hate to be down due to stress when it can be avoided, at least by delegating work tl others even if I should pay for it

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Delegating duties to people is one way to ease off the pressure and it always works as long as the people in question are capable.

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Sure sis
Well said
Thanks for the contribution

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You are most welcome.

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Like my Nigerian people will say "adulthood na scam"😂 it is really not easy
I think right now the only thing I like about adulthood is the fact that I get to make decisions for myself😅

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Haha 😆😆😂, after making that decision, you will still end up taking an unending bills, lolz
Take me back to a child small..let me test something... haha 😆😂

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Yes oo, it's true
How come I didn't think of it...
I want to be a child please 🥺

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You're an amazing woman, an amazing mother and an amazing wife. The responsibilities on your head are enormous but I trust exceedingly in your power to handle it all.

Don't just forget to take care of yourself sometimes. Lots of !LUV dear.🌺

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Awwww, whom do we have here 🤗
Been a while jhymi... hope you are good 😊👍
Many thanks for your encouraging words
I will keep pushing and will try to always take care of myself 😃
!LUV

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Omo! Being a adult is serious task oo. Thank God you found way to balance everything to work out for you.

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Hahaha 😂. Nkwm dear I am missing my little self oh! Back then I will make demands for anything and it there for me. Adulthood is a big scam.
Thanks for sharing

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Haha 😆😂
Let's go back to being a child oo

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