The Ideal Family: Exploring Numbers And Parenthood

We all go about saying we love kids and we wish we had kids. But if you were to give birth right now, what would you and your child eat? This is just point one. Do you know the cost of diapers today? Did you know your baby is supposed to wear about 5 diapers or more in a day? Did you also know diapers don’t fall from the sky?

Now, let’s move on. I used to think I would have kids at an early age because I loved kids and I’m very good with them. But here I am with not even as much as man. It’s not like a baby is just going to fall from the sky. But then, let’s also imagine I even have a child now? I would even hate myself for having that child at this point in life because it’s just suffering we will all be suffering.

One thing I would hate to do in my life is to bring a child into this world just to suffer. As if there’s not even enough suffering in the world already. Looking around, this is actually the situation most people find themselves in. They have kids they can’t even provide 3 square meals for. Most of these people are dying inside of them due to guilt. But then I ask myself, didn’t they think of today when they were engaged in the act. I know you would say your mind wouldn’t even go there at that point but then even before that, didn’t you think about the life you want for yourself and your kids.

I’ve literally been a mom to all of my siblings and cousins and I can say I’m very good with kids. Every child I take care of gets clingy with me and this makes me love kids even more. Obviously, I wish to have kids one day, but not now. Even though I know I’m growing, I don’t see myself to be at that stage where I can boldly say I’m ready to have a kid whom I would be able to take care of, and make time for with my current schedule.

I’ve seen people who had kids when they were students or even still trying to get on their feet and I don’t think I’d have the strength to do such a thing. Everyone has their super power but juggling a kid alongside navigating my way around life currently isn’t something I would say I would excel at. I know it is hard and who knows, it might be even harder for me because I prefer to do everything right.

Kids are a blessing from God and I would want to have kids only when I feel the time is right. There’s actually no right time to do somethings but then I wish to have kids when I know that I can give them my all because I’m not looking to raise just normal kids, I wish to raise change makers.

Actually, I don’t think I want so many kids because even though they’re a bundle of joy, they can also be trouble on their own. At most 3 kids would do for me but I wish to have at least 2 kids. The 3 is when my husband makes a mistake a gets me pregnant again.😂 Spacing of my kids is something which is very important to me because I think kids should be spaced in such a way that they would feel loved. Sometimes people just give birth back to back with no spacing which always brings about divided attention or even less attention to the already existing kids.

As you all know, we plan , and God plans. We don’t always get what we want in life but I’m optimistic that I would actually have my desired number of kids.😅

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